dating site 4 sp sufferers

shield · Intermediate User Joined: Mar 20, 2008 Posts: 119

Just looking at the sheer volume of posts on here do you think it would help to have a dating site for SP sufferers? Actually I'm not sure women with sp have a problem finding partners just men. It would be very hard to face sum1 face to face aswell. But let me know what you think.

Psychedelicious · Posted: Thu May 01, 2008 11:48 pm Post subject:

I don't know. I don't really even like the idea of online dating in the first place but I guess it's okay... And besides I think it would be better for people like us to find other people on our own terms. Well I don't really know for sure, I wouldn't use it, but maybe it could work.

Incognito · Newbie User Joined: Apr 16, 2008 Posts: 45

I think it would be a great idea. It would be nice to find someone who understood it.

4seasons · Advanced User Joined: Apr 12, 2007 Posts: 370

Hard to say. I've never tried online dating so I don't know what its all bout. What if the person lives in another country?

slimjim119 · Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 12:49 am Post subject:

Sounds like a good idea. I'm not so sure how well it would work.

bleach · Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 12:51 am Post subject:

I don't see the value in a "date" that removes the physical immediacy of another human being, for several reasons:

1. It's catering to a weakness of mine that inhibits my life, and which I'd rather overcome rather than submit to.

2. It deprives BOTH of us the advantage of non-verbal communication, which is of UTMOST importance in situations like first-dating and early stage romance wherein the projected subtext of a conversation are just as important as the content.

3. It eliminates emotional/hormonal responses altogether, which sucks the spontaneity, excitement, and joy out of the encounter and basically turns into an adult version of passing "Do you like me?" notes in a classroom.

Humans aren't reptiles and we need the affection and nearness of "experiencing the moment" with one another. Five minutes of in-the-flesh conversation trumps a hundred thousand words of typed interaction. Internet dating seems to be trimming the process in an unfortunate and asinine way.

krs2snow · Intermediate User Joined: Jan 25, 2008 Posts: 210

I hate dating websites and I don't see how SPW would be any different. I hate seeing pics. of people showing themselves off, too. Especially girls. Gawd! We seem to be the worst. I mean, is posting a seductive and/or half-nude photo of ourselves the only way in which we can draw attention to ourselves? What happened to having something to say? What happened to having an opinion? What happened to self-respect and modesty? I feel like sooo many girls are looking for approval. And a lotta times they're finding it by posting half-naked pics. of themselves on the internet. Guys are totally included in this, too, though! Also, I always feel pressure to "inflate" who I am on those sites and here, for once, I feel like I can just be who I am. I'd rather just meet someone of interest on a site like this because I was being real instead of trying to meet someone of interest on a site where I was really being superficial.

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SilentType · Expert User Joined: Jul 04, 2007 Posts: 613

That's why I love krs2snow. :O)

Peace

krs2snow · Intermediate User Joined: Jan 25, 2008 Posts: 210

I love you too, ST!! :O)

Dave_McFadden · Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 3:01 am Post subject:

If the idea is to meet people with SP/SA online, with the goal of eventually going on dates in real life with them, that would be OK. But it wouldn't make any sense to have an entire relationship online.