Bullying Can be a Good Thing!

ACM · Newbie User Joined: May 25, 2008 Posts: 1

I know bullying is perceived to be a bad thing, and it is.

However, as an 18 year-old I've learnt that bullying is something to learn from. I was bullied through high school between the ages of 11-15, but I'm now very happy I was bullied. I've learnt an awful lot about dealing with bullies by MYSELF. I never ever told anyone that I was being bullied. The bullying included name calling and physical violence. If anything, all the bullying I got through school has helped me succeed as a person now. I'm no longer scared of people in any shape or form, my mental strength has increased a lot in the last 4 years. I thank the bullies a lot for that. I've learnt how to draw inspiration from negative comments. I get on with my own thing, I'm proud of who I am, and no one will stop me now.

But yeah, the public advice would be to tell someone about it first, but I disagree. Deal with bullying by going to the gym, releasing those endorphins, telling yourself you're bigger and better than any of those bullies, and look at the negative sides of those bullies, that will make you feel better.

desperatehousewife · Newbie User Joined: Mar 26, 2008 Posts: 41

Unfortunately I do not agree with you, you are bullied and saying "It is a good thing.".No it is not, it is illegal and you will always remember that scene...Perhaps you wanted to get a revenge from them and because of this you are successfull person but is it always necessary to be bullied to be a successfull person?
If you will be bullied again, do not behave like this...Do something, you can talk to your school manager or your boss...

toothpastekisses · Posted: Mon May 26, 2008 2:37 pm Post subject:

I think it's all really a matter of individual differences. People react to situations in different ways. For some with more hardy personalities, it might make them a stronger person who's able to deal with things more in the long run, but for others who are more sensitive it might destroy their confidence and self-esteem completely.

that1guy · Newbie User Joined: May 06, 2008 Posts: 65

Personally, ive never really been bullied but I do receive tons of disrespect and foul manner. Its like they thought I couldnt do shit about it or something. Because of this, I am the most motivated person in the world. I use their shit as motivation to become better in every aspect of life. Now that im confident I just have that "bring your shit" attitude. Im a much more mature person now because of my peer's disrespect towards me.

kyle · Posted: Mon May 26, 2008 11:07 pm Post subject:

IceNerveshatter · Newbie User Joined: May 28, 2008 Posts: 47

That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard of. I'm still fucked up from half the bullshit that used to happen to me in High school. It made me hate people and hate society and it made me weaker on so many levels.

I can't believe someone would try to defend such bullshit. If you like being picked on that's your prerogative, but don't try to make such a stupid absurd statement.

joeljjison · Newbie User Joined: Mar 02, 2008 Posts: 58

I think your all being a bit to ACM.

"I know bullying is perceived to be a bad thing, and it is."

All he ever claimed is that HE got something good out of being bullied.

I can think of good things too... though there less purely good. I've become more observant, and much better at reading peoples character, i've acquired a very morbid sense of humour. I've also become a kinder person, just because i know how much stuff can effect you.

On the other hand, i hate the fact that i was born, i have no faith in myself, and i think everyone is out to hurt me.

Really, i don't think i can give a straight answer to whether i'd preferred what i learnt from being bullied, than what i would have retained if i hadn't been.

I am who i am now... and i was bullied. Our experiences shape us. I have no doubt i wouldn't be very interesting if i hadn't been. Whether that is good or not is something i expect will play out over the longterm if i live that long!

IceNerveshatter · Newbie User Joined: May 28, 2008 Posts: 47

to say "bullying can be a good thing" is an absurd statement. It is never a good thing for anyone in any circumstance. People like to make outlandish statements just to get attention. Personally shit like that really pisses me off. If you enjoy being picked on that's your problem--don't ever try to justify or encourage behaviour like this because that is what you are doing.

kyle · Posted: Wed Jun 04, 2008 1:43 am Post subject:

bullying is almost never a good thing.

Lemans · Newbie User Joined: Mar 07, 2008 Posts: 7

It can be good if you have masochistic streaks, otherwise is not good at all. I think you say is good in order to try to clean psychological effects, so you don't hate society and don't try to do something stupid. Read about the Stockholm Syndrome, in which a hostage shows sympathy for the kidnappers. In my opinion bullies are given a lot of liberties in this society, much of them should be in jail.