So i messed up

Zappa111 · Newbie User Joined: May 30, 2008 Posts: 6

Theres this paranoid girl in my class. I met her on our university chat forums. I had acne and the first time she saw me she pulled her face at me like "Ewww...gross". So, being a masochist, I did not take the hint...I mean, if someone acts that way to others you should have the IQ to figure out the person is insensitive and snobbish and you should get the hell out of there. But I then tried to impress her by telling her who I was, namely, the rhetoric expert from the chat forums. Bad move. Anyway, eventually she accused me of trying to steal her boyfriend, even though I only wanted to be friends with him. She also pretended I was competing with her in terms of grade results. Now, she pretended that she had a reason for being a bitch to me. Nice comment of the day:

"Men are sexual animals, they don't like hideous girls..." Nice one. Who says this to people? I understand she was angry because she thought I liked her boyfriend, but really...its messed up sh*t. Eventually my skin cleared up and I was a flower again, and then she was nice to me for a while...but mean comments still came. She pulls faces at fat people, too. Many people hate her. Revenge: she will get wrinkles and lines from all that face-pulling.

I learnt a lot from all this. Namely, its better to be lonely than to try and impress people to make friends, they only get jealous anyway. I'm sort of scared of this gilr, shes tall and mean, and I bitched her back, so now she doesn't talk to me, but I just have this bad feeling at the pit of my stomach, you know? One has to be very careful with people, one must never say more to them than is necessary, and first impressions last, so when you meet a mean person run like hell.

joeljjison · Newbie User Joined: Mar 02, 2008 Posts: 56

Thank you for your advice. My first friendship was engineered by me giving a totally fake persona to a person i chose (could almost call her a mark really) , who had the best blend of popularity, stupidity and insecurity. With that combination i could easily find out what her friends were like, what she got unhappy about, etcetera. Simply through listening to gossip. You don't need to ask anyone anything to find out about popular people... you hear them bitching, and you see them crying or snapping back when they hear it.

Her friendship allowed me to surround myself with a group of people... her friends.. most of that was bought friendship, through the same acting, helping with homework, whatever. But it did protect me from being alone all the time, and being made fun of.

It also meaned jack shit to me... i'm indebted to her.. and she's a kind person... but i just don't feel at all close.

You can't engineer friendship, and you can't risk trying to impress people. Its bad enough when people THINK your trying to impress them. The majority of people aren't pleasant, and occasionally you get lucky.

I don't think you have to run from mean people though.. it sounds like you have fairly low self confidence to suggest that Sad

Don't. Your pretty articulate. I do understand what you mean though... i play with fire in such ways.. and i get that bad feeling too... you just have stay on top of the game though. Be aware of whats going on around you. Put names to your fears, and plan ways to deal with them if they came to fruition. Plan for every eventually. People who are mean to you will never know what hit em... thats what i do when i have the opportunity. She's obviously quite easy to rile up, with her fear of losing her boyfriend. Someone who can't see beyond others looks is not a tough opponent!

asubscriber99 · Newbie User Joined: May 29, 2008 Posts: 58

to me, i choose the people who surround me very carefully, i want to be with people that i'm comfortable with, i like them, and happy to be with them, and i don't care for the rest of the god damn world.

i don't care whether the person is the richest , most beautiful f** in the whole world, if i like him, he is in, if i don't , i kick him out of my circle, end of story.