What things have you missed out on

ljwwriter · Intermediate User Joined: Oct 31, 2007 Posts: 214

In your life because of your SA? For me it's attending university. I had had plans to go but I knew I wouldn't be able to handle it. Next thing I know a couple of years fly by and I feel so far behind the few friends I keep in touch with off and on. So what have you guys missed out on because of the prison that is your SA?

Argamemnon · Expert User Joined: Jan 15, 2008 Posts: 713

-getting a degree

-getting a decent job

-finding a partner and sexual intimacy.

-having friends and a social life

SA has screwed me..

Pinker · Posted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 10:36 pm Post subject:

How old are you ljwwriter? I did uni for a whole year, but it was like a train wreck and I got nothing out of it. I'd like to go to uni again and do something else but I would have to change my ways a lot.

Hmm other things i can think of-
- not approaching girls, or acknowledging them
- seeing friends out of school/college etc
- making more friends
- being able to freely talk with people. general chit chat. most people in high school i never said more than a word to
- getting a part time job
- getting more involved with my hobbies and mixing with people. i feel like talents ive had have gone to waste.
- doing simple mundane things like going to the shop for my parents
- being independant for myself
- standing up for myself
- being able to walk with a smile on my face
- being myself around people (this hurts)

LLawliet · Newbie User Joined: May 08, 2008 Posts: 43 Location: Japan

_Avoided girls that liked me
_dropped out of school
_dropped out of boxing
_having friends
Thas what hurts me the most.......

bulldog21083 · Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 7:17 pm Post subject:

There's lots of things I'm sorry I missed out on, but I think the biggest thing I'm sad that I missed out on is just having the typical high school experience. I only had a few friends my first couple years but the last couple years I didn't really have any. The only real friend I had then went to a different school. I only went to one high school party, I was in Drama my freshman year but other than that I wasn't in any activities. I was the first one of my friends to get a job, so I always had to work weekends when they would hang out, so I just kind of gradually got forgotten about.

I just miss that I didn't have many friends in high school, no girlfriends, didn't do anything really that typical high schoolers did. I never even got drunk till I was 19. I never went to any dances in high school, not even prom. Didn't go to one football game either, though I really wanted to.

I just wish I could go back in time and redo my life starting from high school while knowing what I know now.

xSleepingBeauty · Newbie User Joined: Apr 20, 2008 Posts: 12

Nope not really. Maybe I regret not being able to stand up for myself, not speaking my mind, being so nervous and anxious all the time.

But I dont regret not doing anything social. When I was younger I think I only wanted to socialize more because I thought thats what I HAD to do. Like, it wasnt normal not to want to have friends and hang out with them.

Now im kinda more interested in having a social life. Which sucks cause my SA is pretty damn bad right now. Confused

BreachedSecurity · Newbie User Joined: May 29, 2008 Posts: 12

Living a rich and fulfilling life (so far) instead of stuck in my room suffering from depression caused by this son of b**** called anxiety

PhantomPod · Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 9:22 pm Post subject:

Having a social life and making friends throughout high school and college. I had zero friends in high school, so the summer before I started college I was very adamant about overcoming my SA and really putting myself out there once I got to college, so that I could meet people. I really did try at first to meet people by going to meetings for clubs and by chatting a bit with people in class. But I wasn't able to build any friendships at all. So now I have finished college with no friends, and I am back in my hometown where I went to high school, so it's not like I have any old friends here. So now I feel really stuck living such an insular life.

IncognitoGuy · Newbie User Joined: Jul 22, 2008 Posts: 5

Many things I've missed out on, but the thing I missed out on the most has been high school football games. I've refused to go because I dislike many people -- and not only that: it's crowded.

Pathetic, I know. Sad

lalaquiet · Posted: Wed Jul 23, 2008 6:11 am Post subject:

Though I feel as though I missed out on a lot of opportunities in college, I think it did wonders for my SA. I became more independent and I've become more comfortable talking with people I don't know. The college I went to was very diverse so I also became used to being around all different types of people.