Offended when people call you shy?

kuhtreen

Even though it is a fact and not an insult, I can't help but feel extremely offended when someone says that I am shy. Probably because I'm kind of ashamed of it and I don't want people to know about it.
It has become like a gigantic insult...even though it is only the truth and I know it. It's okay for me to call myself shy, but when someone else says it, it just drives me insane!!

Carrot · Newbie User Joined: Aug 20, 2008 Posts: 9

I'm sorry you feel that way. I've been called shy my whole life, so I'm used to it now, but I don't really think I ever felt insulted by it.

dottie · Expert User Joined: Sep 06, 2007 Posts: 523 Location: USA

i don't find it insulting. it means they are understanding and don't just dismiss you as a bitch, which they easily could if you're quiet.

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autumn_82 · Posted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 10:18 pm Post subject:

Yeah, I do hate it when someone calls me shy or points out that I am, just because it's been such a negative thing in my life that's caused so many problems and so much pain. I'd rather be anything but shy, so it makes me cringe every time I hear the word.

Psychedelicious · Posted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 10:34 pm Post subject:

I am offended very very easily, but for some reason this does not offend me. Well it's not like they really say it in an offensive way, like it is a bad thing or something. I would probably be offended if it was like this. I don't think people really mean it in a bad way though, which is why I try to not be offended by it.

xabbashiax · Newbie User Joined: Jul 29, 2008 Posts: 35

yep I'm offended when people call me shy because I know that I'm not really like that it also shows that people don't know who I really am

boredguy · Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 12:55 am Post subject:

it usually bugs me when people point out that I am shy. I think because it makes me the center of attention in a somewhat negative way. I don't really take offense or harbor hard feelings toward whoever calls me shy but it bugs me.

theblank · Newbie User Joined: Jun 27, 2008 Posts: 54

I hate being called shy. It's not so much the word itself that bothers me, but the way it's said. Usually the person who says it is making fun or speaking in a condescending manner. It's never a good thing.

I'll never forget being voted most shy in Junior High School. That was humiliating...and unjust. What I suffer from is beyond shyness.

PhantomPod · Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 3:35 am Post subject:

I usually don't like it when people call me shy. Especially when I feel as though I have been doing a good job acting outgoing and it feels like they just called me on my act.

But I don't know, it's just like I don't go around commenting on how loud and outgoing people are, yet people will constantly comment on how quiet and shy I am.

kuhtreen · Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 4:16 am Post subject: