hi, im new although iam suffering from my youth

jannis2008 · Newbie User Joined: Aug 25, 2008 Posts: 5

Hi!

My name is John, I am 39 years old. For all my life until now, I had a terrible problem in my relations and my sexual life. Probably is O.C.D.

When I was creating a new relationship, I had terrible problems dealing with the sexual past of my girlfriend. I was asking too much questions about her sexual past, her x-boyfriends, and the way she made love with them. This was a terrible beginning because during sex I was thinking bad things, like my girlfriend was thinking her X doing sex with me, or even worst, when I knew her X (in 2 cases was collegue of mine at work) I was fantasizing that I was HIM! That was very bad feeling for me.

And for that reason I could not stay at a relationship for more than 6 months or 1 year the most. For that reason I had to make a relationship for more over 4 years.

Now I have a new relationship that counts for me and has a great significance for my life. I love my girlfriend and I care a lot for her, sex with her is great, but the fantasies about a certain person from her past which I know are coming again. I have a lot of stress, I try to control it, but sometimes that is futile. I have gone to shrink, but I am still at the beginning of our rendezvous, I have the feeling that may help me, but especially what I can do myself in order to eliminate these bad sexual fantasies. Is it really O.C.D?

For the history, I must write that my mother left my father and me when I was 5, and I was raised by my grandparents, who were extremely strict, and I did not enjoy my youth because they were expecting to behave like a grown man. Can I overcome this problem? Is Serotonin a factor that affects my condition?

Silverman · Newbie User Joined: Aug 10, 2008 Posts: 14

well, i have the exact same feeling. its horrible, what pills are u taking? i dont think i have it now, but who know, the thing that is bothering me, is that, i was with a girl that i didnt like, I was having these thoughts and when I finished(I came) i didnt have that feeling that i just wanted to leave right away, like one time that i had sex with someone that i didnt know, i made it with her and i wanted to get away fast. at that time i was feeling very lonely and i was horny, maybe that was the reason, but its bugging me that i had those thoughts about the past and didnt want to leave her just about doing it. It lasted just 3 months, because i as ashamed of her, i know it bad but i was young and i accept my mistake.