Anger and Shyness

SomeGuy · Posted: Tue Mar 29, 2005 2:57 pm Post subject: Anger and Shyness

I have never hurt anyone in my life and I never would. I am very careful with other people's feelings.

But...I am also a very angry person. No-one knows. I bottle it up. Recently, two female co-workers were laughing at the very idea of me being angry - they couldn't even imagine such a thing.

I wonder if this is common or not? Is my secret rage linked to my shyness?

I get angry at wrongs done to me but I also get very angry about wrongs done to other people. I am good at working up a rightous rage. Alas, it doesn't translate into charity. For instance, I'm liable to work myself up into a fury over the treatment of the homeless, but do I actually donate time to help them? Nope.

maggie · Posted: Tue Mar 29, 2005 11:47 pm Post subject:

I am the same type of person, would never hurt anyone, try not to hurt anyone's feelings. On the other hand, I am pissed off a lot, but most people would never guess it, I never show it. I do keep a lot of my feelings bottled up.

ColdAsIce · Posted: Wed Mar 30, 2005 9:15 pm Post subject:

At my last work place I was surprised to get promoted (lord knows how I pulled it off...lol)...but anyway it turned out to be the worst mistake of my life!! The pressure was so bad, I just couldn't handle it!! Usually I am a very calm and placid person but I always found myself getting angry with myself and my co workers...I was even warned on a couple of occassions that people had picked up on my 'bad attitude'...which kind of confused me....lol...I didn't realise I even had one!!....

In the end, I couldn't take it nolonger and so I handed my notice in and ended my only chance of having a job that would of secured me a meaningful and promising future....'WHAT A LOSER!!' (I hear you all!!...lol)and so my point is because of my SP I find pressure impossible to manage, and the reason for this is my SP brings out the worst in me in just about every situation...... Sad

Fredscarecrow · Advanced User Joined: Dec 11, 2004 Posts: 423

everybody had hurt somebody at sometime, its human nature, and unless you are that person you cant see what will and will not hurt them mentally.
im not accusing you,just pointing out that no-one is innocent.

i get angry alot, and tend to put it on others, such as my bf as i cant control it. I do this especially when others make me angry, but i make myself angry alot because i hate alot of the things i do. i dont like that i do this, but i do it anyway. Being angry is normal, you just have to learn how to represent that emotion in a peaceful way, or if it is a wrong done to you, it perhaps would be better to show that anger in a way that does not create a situation, but which resolves the injustice.

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Chilling__Echo · Posted: Thu Mar 31, 2005 3:11 am Post subject:

Hey someguy, i have really bad anger problems that i only recently realized i had to get help for. anger is truely bad for the soul (not to get to philosophical here) but it does end up hurting only you in the end. i know it's directly linked to my SA, i think it's got to do with our pride and how we feel around others, we're tired of being the ones finishing last, don't let it get to you and don't wait for it to be too late

annie · Posted: Sat Apr 02, 2005 1:00 pm Post subject:

lifesnotfair · Posted: Sat Apr 02, 2005 11:42 pm Post subject:

i have HUGE amounts of anger built up inside me, eventually it turns to sadness and deep depression..

Doesn't matter what i seem to do, nothing works

sugaryberries · Posted: Sun Apr 03, 2005 2:29 am Post subject:

I try not let things bother me. But, I live in dorm and a lot of things bother me, but I don't say anything about them, even though they affect me. Like the being extremely loud after quite hours. If I am up IO try to be considerate of everyone else but no one is considerate of me.

My dad and sister say things that hurt my feelings, but I never say anything to them to really hurt their feelings I just bottle it up.

despise · Posted: Sun Apr 03, 2005 5:39 am Post subject:

yes. i bottle up all my anger. i think there's only been one occassion out of 5 years my closest friends have ever seen me angry. and when i was done screaming at the person that enraged me, i walked away...and they followed...i sat down, they surrounded me and stared at me for a while... then they all cracked up. that was the first and only time they've seen me like that, and i think we were all in shock for a while.
i guess that moment encouraged me to hold my anger back even more. though i should have told myself to express it more as i'll end up exploding again. i took all my feelings out on myself in ways i wont discuss here. and after a long break of about 6 months, ive started up again. *sigh* ill get there. i did once...sortof.. Shocked

Amalie · Newbie User Joined: Apr 26, 2005 Posts: 2 Location: Canada

Speaking of anger, I just made a post about my anger towards the treatment of shy people lol. I find myself getting angry a lot. I guess it may be because I am a shy, docile person and rather than speak about my anger I keep it inside. In my case, I am also a very sensitive person. In my opinion, generally speaking, shy people are sensitive. I take injustices in this world to heart which in turn produces anger. Somehow I have this notion that all should be right in this world and when it isn't I get upset, and when I get upset I get angry. I think that we are a different breed of human (us shy people). Emotions run high as does anger. Often we are too polite to say what we really think and feel therefore we have pent up feelings. I always say "watch out world when I finally decide to speak my mind". Twisted Evil

I guess this is one drawback to being shy...or is it? Imagine if everyone ran around screaming exactly what they felt at the top of their lungs!! Then for sure I would have to build my bubble world!!