sound "stupider" than I really am

maggie

Today at work, my words just wouldn't come out right Shocked

! Does this happen to you? I attempt to say simple sentences, nothing complicated, and I sometimes just jumble the words up, and it makes me sound like I don't know how to put sentences together or something.....and can't talk loud enough for others to hear...have to repeat myself constantly... so fuckin annoying Evil or Very Mad

Danfalc · Posted: Mon May 02, 2005 12:31 am Post subject: Yup

Yup that happens to me aswell Sad

. I know what im going to say and it just seems to go wrong when i actually say it. Sometimes my voice is just 2 shaky to understand, or i just completley fuck it up by mumbling.The only thing that i can suggest is take a seocond to breathe b4 you say somthing and try and say it slowly.

Chilling__Echo · Posted: Mon May 02, 2005 3:58 am Post subject:

oohhhh yeah. it's like the harder i think about it the worse it comes out. i ALWAYS fuck up my sentences. and i think because of it when ever i say something i just mumble it and then people don't pay attention to me. seriously. sometimes i'll be doing my "mumble" and they just walk away. but i realized that if i felt it wasn't important, they wouldn't take notice, just in the way that we've learned to communicate. subconciously i must disguise what i say so that if i feel like it's the least bit idiotic kind of comment, most likily they won't hear... wow that was a ramble...

Toad · Posted: Mon May 02, 2005 4:16 am Post subject:

I don't really have a problem with my words comming out right...I have more of a problem of people not being able to follow what I'm saying. Don't really get it cause it makes sense to me...but yeah I find that I always have to repeat myself cause I talk quietly and mumble a lot. Also occasionally when I'm talking I say a word and think to myself...wow...that word sounds really funny, and I probably look dumb because sometimes I'll just stop what I'm saying and think about that word for a little bit.

snefitty1586 · Posted: Mon May 02, 2005 1:04 pm Post subject:

My teachers used to have no idea how bright I was...until they saw my personality through writing. I am a completely different person on paper, rather than spoken word.

Horatio · Posted: Mon May 02, 2005 1:46 pm Post subject:

I used to be top of the class, winning regional speech competitions and participated in theatre sports on a regular basis which required a lot of on the spot thinking.

That was six years ago and now I can't open my mouth without sounding completely stupid. I don't know if its the socialphobia or a side effect from one of the courses of meds I've been on as its not just my ability to speak thats suffered but also my ability to think, I simply can't write as fluently as I once did nor concentrate as well.

beautiful_soul

brokensoul · Newbie User Joined: Apr 09, 2005 Posts: 3 Location: Canada

Words never come out right for me either... I always end up offending people without meaning to. Arghhh. Oh and my mind sometimes just goes blank in the middle of a sentence and I feel so stupid and other people are still staring at me waiting for me to say something and I don't end up saying anything and I'll just look at the floor and not talk for the rest of the day. I find that, although this is not a solution, I feel more comfortable writing down all the stuff I want to say before I actually say it, especially on the phone. Then I have more time to pay attention to my voice and pronounciation and stuff, I dunno if that helps...

Butterfly · Posted: Mon May 02, 2005 4:20 pm Post subject:

I hated answering the phone when I was in the office (we were four and shared two phones). Sometimes I was alone so I'd let them ring endlessly, fearing that someone from another room would come to get them. I felt so paranoid, hiding behind my monitor with that ringing noise that seemed to get louder by the second and not being able to work either.

When I need to speak with someone, I tend to say this person's name no matter who answers. A while ago I called another office to speak with a workmate and the receptionist answered even though I called his extension. I was anxious about talking to him and hadn't prepared for yet another person so all I could say was, "John?". By then I was so nervous that I don't remember what I said to this woman. She must think I'm stupid or something.

maggie · Posted: Mon May 02, 2005 9:20 pm Post subject:

beautiful_soul- i'm not sure what we can do to speak louder....no matter how hard i try, i can't do it. If I am asked to repeat , my words come out exactly the same as the first time!! Shocked

(if they come out at all, cause if someone says, "pardon me?" my whole being pauses, and seems like everyone in the whole friggin place is waiting for me to speak louder)...and it's hard to speak at all Rolling Eyes

p.s. today someone told me "have a good day" and I said "you're welcome" (yikes Embarassed

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