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Makaylee · Posted: Sun Jun 12, 2005 5:59 am Post subject:

All I can say is... Thank you. Smile

This is a fresh way of thinking of things, and I have a felling that it will help myself and a few other people, i hope!

It is so true that you have to know what you really want, and act accordingly to get those things.

I hope that everyone takes the time to really read this, and learns something from it.

Me, I am actually going to print this, and try to read it everyday. It seems like it is a totally attainable and positive way to take steps to overcome this illness.

Positive and helpful posts like these need to come more often.

Thanks, again.
Makayla

IcanDoIt · Posted: Sun Jun 12, 2005 4:54 pm Post subject:

kudos to threadstarter!
wonderful post there.. Smile

if you wanna get more stuff like this, go to the library, borrow such books..

youll be amazed at how simple writings can change your life..

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U can Do it

Take reponsibility for your own world and never project blame. If u do, you lose power

lifesnotfair · Posted: Sun Jun 12, 2005 6:29 pm Post subject:

nickabcuk · Intermediate User Joined: Aug 29, 2004 Posts: 100

thoughtless · Posted: Sun Jun 12, 2005 10:22 pm Post subject:

Hello Nick,

First of all let me tell you: Great post and it's really helpful but there's a part of it I'd really need your advice on.

My problem is that I have 5 school exams coming up VERY soon and I'm really scared that I'm gonna flip out.

The part of your text that really hit me was this one: "If I say to you "Don't think of the colour blue, Don't think of the colour blue, Don't think of the colour blue," then I bet you can't help but think of blue. I bet if I kept saying it then you'd start to notice all the blue things around you. If I then suddenly said what's red in the room you’re in then you'd have trouble answering that immediately because when we focus intensely on something we miss a lot of information. If you keep focusing on what you fear then you're just going to keep seeing and experiencing everything you fear. "

This is very very true, but hard to do, as well. I actually try doing that when I force myself to go out with friends to some place public. I think "everything's fine, I'm gonna be ok, I'm not gonna have any sort of attacks", but it's the thought about avoiding the situation that makes me stress out, panic, blush, and basically go nuts. My problem with these exams is that, not only do I have to face lots of people (who I guess that kinda worry about me and will ask me if I'm doing better - something that'll make me get even worse about this condition), but I've also got to spend 2 whole hours "trapped" in a room full of people. I know for certain that if I think, even if for once, that everything's gonna be ok and that I'm gonna blush like crazy that's exactly what will happen!

Question is: I know that this condition is basically... psychological. What tips/advices would you give me to focus before the actual exam? How can I set myself psychologically to focus on the actual exame instead of focusing on all the people I'm going to face? This is really stressing me out and it won't let me study because if I do I'll end up thinking about how f***** up I'll be when I DO face them. What can I do to clear my mind of all those thoughts? Confused

nickabcuk · Intermediate User Joined: Aug 29, 2004 Posts: 100

Snoopy_Ru · Newbie User Joined: Jun 13, 2005 Posts: 1 Location: Norway

Have read all your words Nick, and I just have to admit it has given me a different view on things, it really inspire me to go out there and achieve the things I want. The words seem so simple, but it's to understand the meaning that can makes the difference. You explained it very well, and just want to thank you for helping me (and hopefully others) seeing things differently!
It really makes a difference... Smile

marc72 · Posted: Mon Jun 13, 2005 2:49 am Post subject: good job.

hey good post. Hopefully everyone get to read this post you put up...truly informative and inspiring. I suggest PEOPLE print a copy of this and carry it with them during tough times or times when they fell "out of touch" and alone.

pitkreet · Posted: Mon Jun 13, 2005 12:58 pm Post subject:

Excellent post and very well explained. I found particularly useful the solution-focussed, step-by-step suggestion for overcoming perceived barriers.

The follow-up's are equally important as they take typical, everyday examples (eg thoughtless and the exams) and demonstrate where the problematic thought-processes lie and advises on how to "correct" them.

Nick, many thanks for taking the time to visit and post on this forum. Having advice from someone who has first-hand experience of life with SA, and overcome it, is inspirational and an aid to motivation. I find it hard to interact with books, no matter how good the advice, so seeing worthy advice being offered on an interactive forum is of great benefit.