Does anyone else have Anxiety and related problems "Social Phobia" in private so to speak.
What I mean by this is, even though I have suffered with all of this for years and years, apart from my GP (doctor) nobody at all knows about it, as I decided long ago to keep it a secret.
Not even my parents, and I still live with them!
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Apart from my family, Dr. and therapist noone knows. Oh wait there - i told a friend once, only because he was older and mature and i knew i wouldn't get any judgement from him - which i didn't. Also i was sure he wasn't someone who would use it against me in anyway. I tend to think like that. I don't like to appear weak in front of other people - giving them 'ammunition' against me so to speak.
Yep , I'm with ya there . Until I joined this site (and another one) , I never even fully admitted to myself that I had it. Maybe I convinced myself if I didn't admit it , it would eventually go away or something , I don't know. I was raised to never show emotion or weakness in front of others , so..... Makes for hard work fighting this thing and trying to hide it's very existance from them and yourself at the same time .
Joined: Jun 01, 2005 Posts: 719 Location: Portugal
Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2005 8:59 am Post subject:
My parents know. I had to tell them and show them my shredded arm so they'd realize I wasn't just kidding around. I dropped out of school just after the 3rd term started but still managed to control my SP in order to do the final exams (I succeeded in all of them and had a 19 out of 20 on my english exam ). What a feeling of conquer after each exam, I'll tell ya that!
Anyway, if I hadn't told my parents they'd never get me in therapy. Still, the psychologist I went to was a total bitch and never really helped much. She kept asking questions and making me talk about subjects that really hurt my feelings and sometimes made me panic... Not a good feeling at all, panicking inside a closed room with a therapist staring right at you.
Still, you don't always need to tell your parents. I don't know how supportive your parents are about these issues so it's only up to you. If you think it'll help, go for it. The best help you can get, though, comes from within. It's all in our minds only Social Phobics themselves can control their thoughts and overcome this monster.
Good luck to whatever you choose!
edit: a couple of friends also know. I trust them enough to be able to share such a thing.
Joined: Jul 13, 2005 Posts: 59 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2005 12:25 pm Post subject:
I've told people I considered friends, and now they treat me pretty badly, bullying me to a lesser extent. I've been considering leaving University because of it. Other people I've told have treated me like I have a majorly dangerous problem, like I'm a psychopath or something. It's best to only tell people that you KNOW aren't going to judge you badly for it.
Joined: Dec 10, 2004 Posts: 81 Location: New Zealand
Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2005 12:08 pm Post subject:
The problems I have I keep pretty private. Over the years I've created a situation where fewer and fewer people are aware that I have had problems in the past, and fewer still realise that they are still partly there under the surface. My mother, my GP and the psychologist who treated me for a few months recently all have a reasonably good picture of it (ie what my diagnosed problems are, how they have been treated etc). Some of my friends know some of it. I've managed to hide it from most of my family, flatmates, work colleagues and most of the people I socialise with. People who have known me a long a time must wonder why they have never heard of me having a boyfriend but I'm not sure they would guess the reason.
Sometimes it feels weird. I have felt quite competent at work over the last few years, and sometimes I think about what is written on my medical file and wonder how it could be the same person and maybe it is all a mistake and I'm perfectly "normal".
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). What a feeling of conquer after each exam, I'll tell ya that!
