Joined: May 12, 2005 Posts: 373 Location: New York
Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 10:37 pm Post subject: 'There will always be somebody who doesn't like you' - true?
Sometimes people tell me that "not everyone will like me" or something like that... but is that really true? Am I crazy to think that if you keep quiet, carefully choose which people to interact with, and sort of "be a chameleon" around people (sorry for lack of better words), that you /could/ be liked by everyone? (well, everyone you know at least)
Joined: Jul 12, 2005 Posts: 1002 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 10:56 pm Post subject:
well maybe ur famliy will always love u but somtime not like u? (i dont mean u personally Paul) i think my mum somtimes doesn't like me, but she told me she loves me forever However, coz i don't like myself i think everyone hates me, great huh??
Joined: Jul 13, 2005 Posts: 25 Location: Australia
Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 11:22 pm Post subject: Re: 'There will always be somebody who doesn't like you' - t
I think as long as there's people that you're not going to like, there'll be people that don't like you. Even if you do carefully choose who to interact with, odds are one of those people will have or acquire a friend / family member / partner who just grates you the wrong way. Most of us don't choose to make friends out of those we don't like / that don't like us, but it's when the connections come in that it gets tricky.
paul wrote:
if you keep quiet, carefully choose which people to interact with, and sort of "be a chameleon" around people (sorry for lack of better words), that you /could/ be liked by everyone? (well, everyone you know at least)
As for being a chameleon / keeping quiet - most people that you choose to interact with, choose to befriend, are looking for you to be you, so that they can be them, and you can establish rapport and trust and share stuff etc etc.
I like your chameleon analogy, but to take it further - remember that chameleons don't do their colour shift thing to make friends, they do it to hide. I think a big part of overcoming SA / SP is learning how to lose the desire to hide.
That said - everyone's different and everyone works out what makes life tick for them. If *your* strategy / beliefs start working for *you*, that's all that matters!
I don't know about other people...but for me, I know there will always be ALOT of people who hate me. Although nobody has any real reason to hate me...I know I am hated.
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