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cutefluffykitten1
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PostPosted: Sat Jun 03, 2006 8:01 pm    Post subject: Im loosing hope in men Reply with quote

Ok here it goes......I love men .....of course but im beginning to give up hope....I dont trust them anymore....

I really want to trust but im so scared....are there any men that dont have a sex addiction or that dont have the urge to look at porn each flippin day or every other day.....are there any men that when there talking to you they actually want to speak to your soul or do all men talk from the waist down....

Im seriously giving up hope of finding a man ....that will make me truelly feel safe and secure and to know he only has eyes for me...

I have wanted to end my life because of this.....this is how its making me feel....and if another guy tries to talk about sex or get me to give him details of the size of my tits im gona jump off a flippin cliff......



There nothing wrong with making love....

Its the porn and having eyes for other women and wanting to get off on messengers that is seriously having an effect on me.....

Its not funny anymore....its seriously pissing me off big time

luckily noone on this site has tried to hahahaha.....bless em

Laughing

Flippin had to get that off my chest..... Shocked i said chest.....peter getting excited Laughing flippin heck Rolling Eyes

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PostPosted: Mon Jun 05, 2006 11:02 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

There are men that aren't like that but you probably wouldn't be attracted to them. I am one. But guys who are like me are usually more serious and perhaps more thoughtful not so much fun to be around.

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PostPosted: Tue Jun 06, 2006 12:04 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Cutefluffykitten, why do you assume that for a man to desire sex, or to look at porn, or to look at other women, implies that he is not to be trusted, or not really in love with you?

We probably do have a stronger sex drive than females, but that is inbuilt in our genes, what can we possibly do about it? Smile Besides, believe it or not, it can be unpleasant for us as well, at times. It may happen for example that you are peacefully intent in whatever everyday activity, and then maybe some beautiful girl just passes in front of you, and your brain gets flooded with chemicals that make you sick and unable to concentrate for ten minutes afterwards. Millions of stupid estinct ancestors whispering to your ear <<run after her!...get her!>> but you are a civilized person and you have your paperwork to do. Not easy at all Smile

Personally, I fell in love about one year ago the last time, she was a reasonably good looking woman, but not so extremely beautiful, and besides a few years older than me. Yet it was absolutely real love and affection, and I would have done anything for her (obviously she didn't give a damn but this is another matter). But I still did have those kind of impulses that you describe, and yes I did desire to have sex with her, all the time, because I was so much in love with her and I wanted to be as close to her as possible.
So maybe it's not that men can't be trusted, but your definition of trustworthy men needs to be revised a little...

Hope I helped, and good luck with it.


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PostPosted: Tue Jun 06, 2006 11:54 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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PostPosted: Wed Jun 07, 2006 12:46 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Shocked Girls don't like boys who watch porn, how come? Maybe watch it together or somthing... guess if thats not your sort of thing then those type of men arn't going to be your type Smile

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PostPosted: Thu Jun 08, 2006 2:05 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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PostPosted: Thu Jun 08, 2006 7:46 am    Post subject: Re: Im loosing hope in men Reply with quote

cutefluffykitten1 wrote:
I dont trust them anymore....

U shoudn't have much trust in them never!

cutefluffykitten1 wrote:
are there any men that dont have a sex addiction or that dont have the urge to look at porn each flippin day or every other day.....are there any men that when there talking to you they actually want to speak to your soul or do all men talk from the waist down....

Are not! That kind of man what u looking for don't exist. But are some guys thet will repress those things and that are well-bred and who wanna know more things about you and what you feel not just your tits size Rolling Eyes .... i think

cutefluffykitten1 wrote:
I have wanted to end my life because of this.....this is how its making me feel....and if another guy tries to talk about sex or get me to give him details of the size of my tits im gona jump off a flippin cliff.....

This is not a reason for end your life! Mad
Next time when a guy will ask you what's the size of your tits try to ask him silly embarrassing questions about him and the size of his .... and then make fun of him telling that is little or something like that Razz i'm sure that next time he will keep for him that kind of questinos .....or more simple ignore him and live him with a scornful look Twisted Evil

cutefluffykitten1 wrote:
There nothing wrong with making love....

Its the porn and having eyes for other women

Its not funny anymore....its seriously pissing me off big time

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If he have eyes for other women then you have too the right to have eyes for other men Twisted Evil and if he don't mind that i think something is wrong coz people are made with that stupid feeling that they should be the only one for their partener Rolling Eyes um .... and porn is just for fun i guess so don't worry Wink


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PostPosted: Fri Jun 09, 2006 6:14 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

silverwolf wrote:
There are men that aren't like that but you probably wouldn't be attracted to them. I am one. But guys who are like me are usually more serious and perhaps more thoughtful not so much fun to be around.


That's what I was thinking too. Are you always going for the same type of guy?

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