Why do people think I'm Gay?

tehStranger · Intermediate User Joined: Jun 09, 2006 Posts: 218

It's very peculiar. How can I exactly convince them I'm not, so it would hit home and please them?

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2QuietForThem · Posted: Sat Aug 05, 2006 3:49 am Post subject:

I'm not sure that you can please them. They've made up their minds - the small minds that they have. They have nothing better to do than wonder about you and your sex life. Those people are pretty lame. I went through the same thing in high school. Heck, I checked out every girl in the place. I got the gay thing because this SA kept me from hanging around girls. I just kept to myself and NEVER let them know that they bothered me. If they see that you react to their name-calling, then they know they've drawn blood and then want more. My advice - ignore the losers! Besides, I've heard many times that the ones who call out people as being gay are actually trying to hide their own gay thoughts.

PunkyMonkey · Newbie User Joined: Jul 20, 2006 Posts: 59

This makes me think of something that happened today that I thought was weird.. I am helping out right now in a different store than my own, and there's a boy in one of the departments that I thought was kind of...cute. Actually, I mostly liked him because I realized he was very quiet and everything. But then I went outside on my break, and everyone at the table was talking about him and saying that they thought he was gay! They had nothing really to say about him, except that they didn't know him, because he hardly talked to them. I was almost amazed....that they could say such a thing about him just because he is quiet.

Not that that helps you very much. But maybe only one or two people think that, and it's all they can think to say about you since they don't understand you. It's definitely not right, though.

LemonKiss · Newbie User Joined: Oct 14, 2005 Posts: 76

I think I know how you feel because my family all think I'm gay. I thought I was straight but really I don't know. Just, they need to stop winking at me when Kurt Cobain sings "what else can I say, everyone is gay?"

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Therover · Newbie User Joined: Apr 20, 2006 Posts: 13

Heh, I get that all the time.

Because I never have a girlfriend, and I always have girls coming on to me but I never do anything about it.

I'm not gay, not even remotely; but in the small minds of gossiping people 1+1=3.

As to what to do to make them stop, you could just be seen with lots of girls around you; preferably with your tongue down their throats. Of course, if you could just do that no one would have accused you of being gay in the first place. Rolling Eyes

Because your different people will make all kinds of assumptions about why that would be.

The gay thing never bothered me because its so obviously not true (anyone who spends any time around you will realize that). But some of the other things can be a little disturbing.

For instance, because you seem nervous all the time; people wonder if your up to no good. Sometimes I feel like people are looking at my like I might be planning on robbing them or something.

Just let people think whatever they are going to think, they are going to do it anyway.

VinRock · Newbie User Joined: Nov 15, 2005 Posts: 2

Same here, although I could understand why people would think I'm twinking, hehe.

Besides the fact that I'm seen as a loner and all that jazz, I also happen to have a slightly fem physique. I'm 5'7", 140lbs. I've been hitting the gym for awhile, which is resulting in some beefiness.....but still.

I don't know if I'll ever have that full.....masculine look. I'm comfortabe with the way I am, so whatever. I used to be skin & bones -- but I've upgraded to skinny/slender.

PunkyMonkey: That dude at your store could as very well be me. The same thing happened to moi at my current job (I found out via another co-worker). Everyone thinks I'm gay. The story of my life.

So aside from our personalities, maybe our looks indicate to some people that we're gay?

maggie · Posted: Thu Aug 10, 2006 3:04 pm Post subject: Re: Why do people think I'm Gay?

Diluted_Acid · Posted: Sun Aug 13, 2006 1:07 am Post subject:

Glad to see we can all relate one way or another. I too have had parents with a very funny attitude towards my SA, my dad never thought i was gay . . . just thought i acted gay Mad

, then my mum would buy all these books on knowing how to deal with a gay son Rolling Eyes

. Other than that i think what hurts, is when your at school (and your a guy) . . . . you have some girls approach you . . . . only to leave you due to your unaproachableness (lol can't think of a word Embarassed

) . . . . and then the girls don't regard you as gay . . . . but as a self centred, stereotype of one of those bastarded type guys who have no respect or interest in having females as friends Sad

. . . . . . and then on the other hand, the guys will continually call you offensive names and maybe spank you. It's tough growin up with these circumstances, as i know many of you may understand, and the only way i escaped all this, which lasted since the beginning of primary till midway through highschool, was to socialise more with girls (still very hard . . . . and distressing for me), take up a sportive hobbie where guys could give me respect, and i could benefit myself from this SA. Otherwise honestly, i would just ignore those remarks. I still get them today, and i just have a chuckle about them, e.g. this big bikie came into my work the other day telling me i looked like a girl. My boss hates him, and he is known as a bad guy around here, therefore i just winked at him, waved in a very ditzy way sayin 'cya around sweetie'. He looked very angry . . . . yet more surpised, however he already has a bad rep around my area, therefore theres not alot he can do . . . . . and besides, i tend to be very cocky and arrogant, if i come to work from a bad day at school when i can't express myself to anyone, or even talk.

Claude · Posted: Mon Aug 14, 2006 3:26 am Post subject:

My own best friend is starting to think I'm gay and I find it rather funny. It's only because I've never had a girlfriend before and the fact that I hit the weights constantly. I don't believe that I have a feminin looking physique, as I am 5'11 180 pounds now. But my friend is using my lack of contact with women and the whole bodybuilding thing to imply that I must be gay. I'm not, plain and simple. I'm just shy around women due to the way that I was largely ignored in the past. Don't take other peoples shallow judgements about you seriously. Just ignore them. No big deal if they think your gay, thoughts are only that, thoughts.

Horatio · Posted: Tue Aug 15, 2006 12:00 pm Post subject:

people at school and at church used to make fun of me and beat me up cause they thought I was gay

they thought I was gay because I never had any girlfriends and was into arts/drama/music instead of playing rugby. where I grew up, anyone who didnt play rugby was automatically considered to be homosexual and deserved to be punched every day for it

although I am not and never have been gay I feel I can relate to those who came out when they were in their teens as I know how persecuted they can become