Joined: Oct 08, 2004 Posts: 283 Location: Australia
Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2004 6:16 pm Post subject: Getting a Job
Well, I'm 21 and have never had a proper job. I've done small amounts of photographic/graphic design freelancing, but come the end of this year when I finish my degree, I have to start looking.
So what sort of jobs do I start looking for? Eventually I will have to get something relevant to my career choice, but for the meantime what is the best job environment for someone with social phobia?
My biggest fear is not getting procedure right. I am totally hopeless when it comes to following instructions and I get confused very easily which leaves me muddled when coupled with this anxiety. I am alright once I get settled in but I am always fearing those first few weeks where I am utterly hopeless.
Another issue I have is motivation. I am slow to get up in the morning, slow to do work and slow to comprehend. To top it all off I am a perfectionist. So I don't know how that will work.
So, should I be taking meds or not? Is there any way to get around the fear?
I feel the same way that you described.....Trying to feel comfortqble in a job for the first few weeks is very very difficult...I can relate totally...I guess my best advice to you would be to face fear dead on and suffer through the first few weeks....cant go under it, cant go around it, cant go over it....you my as well go through it and get it over with......
Search the classified and apply for everything and anything that interests you...regardless if its in your field or not.....
I wish you the best of luck...dont know if I was any help.
As for newborn....get a life man.....poeple dont appreciate moronic advice like that.....get a life, and maybe you will have a little bit of empathy for people in our situation....if not, shut the hell up!!!
Joined: Oct 14, 2004 Posts: 112 Location: Australia
Posted: Fri Oct 15, 2004 6:07 pm Post subject:
I would apply for any job that you are interested in. If you think your social phobia is holding you back and that you aren't capable of getting a job then you wont. If I had a choice of working or being on social security then I would pick working anyday.
The best thing to do is tackle your SA head on, you need to face your fears. Even normal people get nervous about attending job interviews and starting new jobs. In most jobs there is a settling period of 3 months, you get put on a trail for 3 months so that your boss can see if you are any good at your job and it is also for you to decide whether you like that job or not. It's nothing to worry about as it takes several weeks just to get used to the new environment and the work routines on a daily basis. You need to be fair to yourself and give yourself a proper go.
As for having trouble getting out of bed, how important is it to you to have a job, it sounds like getting a job would be a inconvience, if you have trouble getting out of bed why not look for an afternoon/evening job. There are lots around. I am extremely shy and introverted with SA and I've never had a problem finding a job.
I can totally relate to worrying constantly about procedure, and dreading the "helpless" unsettled period at the start of a new job. I worry about those things too (I've been at my current job almost 6 months and I STILL worry about getting our chaotic procedures right!!).
Meds may be helpful to you-- talk to a doctor/counselor/psychiatrist about it. If you go the med route, you may want to be on them for a week or two before starting a job, so you can get used to how the med affects your everyday functioning. Tranquilizers can be very helpful too. They reduce the constant "background noise" in the mind and can greatly reduce the physical symptoms/feelings of anxiety. But there's a "sweet spot" to hit, as it's not helpful to be sleepy or "tranqed out" at work
Nope, not kidding...he actually sat there for over 10 minutes trying to come up with jobs for me...lol...then he said that, I fell about laughing and he said thats all he could really suggest for a socialphobe.
Joined: Sep 30, 2004 Posts: 758 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Fri Oct 15, 2004 8:41 pm Post subject:
KIDDING - KIDS - BABY GOATS !
Waaah? Really? Wow! Just think he got paid for that!
I want to be a spy now ! Have you seen the series on BBC2
You get to reinvent yourself AND the more anonymous and unseen you are the better!
oops...sorry, my brain power left me working out how to do that red baner thingy...lol
AWWWWWWW NOOOOOOO, i missed that, i really wanted to see that program...whens it on again???
we'd be good at that considering we been hiding from most of the world anyways...lol
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