need some advice

kazz · Posted: Mon Jan 05, 2004 4:18 pm Post subject: need some advice

hi there im new to this and just needed a bit of advice im not sure if i have social anxiety but it sounds a lot like me for as long as i can remember i have always been shy but over the years its just got worse and worse at the moment i wont go out by myself it sounds stupid and im not really sure why i wont im just scared of everything how stupid i might look or ill say and do something wrong but at the moment im unemployed and i cant get job seekers allowance because of my age so i need a job before i get kicked out my flat the only thing is i cant phone anyone i cant go to interviews and if i do manage to do all that and start working after about a week people tell me how i cant do the job even if its something so simple like cleaning so i end up never wanting to go bk or getting fired i dont know what to do anymore as i keep letting people down and they dont understand why i cant just go to an interview or ring people up but i am just scared. anyway does this sound like anyone else or is it just me being stupid also where do you find help for these kinds of problems as i dont want to go to my doctor.
thanx
kazz

richkid · Posted: Mon Jan 05, 2004 10:59 pm Post subject:

Yeah, you seem very negative about yourself thats basically what happens to alot of people.
Not sure what advice I can give you but the one thing you need to do is be more positive (I know easier said than done!)
One thing I was told is FACE YOUR FEAR.
I bet at times you thought of something to say or do but you head tells you its going to be awfull and overwhelming embarcing. It doesn't need to be.

Basically why should you letother people take control of your life,its your life you choose what you make of it.

Don't let the bastards grind you down.

marcpatt · Guest

I, just like yourself suffer from SP. My problem started when I was in my second year of college. Up to that year of my life, I guess I was considered a success and a person with a very bright future.

My life had not been an easy one as a child. Both of my parents were drug addicts and they abused my siblings and myself. Luckily for us, we were taken from our parents and placed in foster homes. While in foster care my life seemed to have turned for the best. I wanted to change my life and became a star student. My only problem was that I never looked back and pretended that my past never took place. I never delt with it and refused to go to couseling. In my mind couseling was for crazy people or the weak minded.

This way of thinking led to my demise. During my second year of college my past came out of my mind as if I had opened a Pandora's box. With all these problems I somehow still managed to graduate, but was secretly very miserable.

To make this story short, I did not start my road to recovery until I decided to talk to my doctor , siblings, and friends about my problem. I, like yourself was not able to hold a job because of SP. My advise to you is that sometimes you have to suck-up your pride and reach out to those who can help you.