Need help about socializing with others...Neighbors, Convos

Nytro

Hello,

I was hoping some of you guys could help me out. For years I have been a very quite individual with neighbors and people in general. I have excellent listening skills and ask many questions while talking with diffrent ppl. My problem is sometimes I hold myself short and my mind begins racing on boring, or screwing up what im saying.Especially if I dont know much about what they are talking about.

I feel this is one of my last barriers from keeping me SA free. If a neighbor greets me, one i never talk to I come off as obrupt and breif maybe as I want them to go away. When I go to a dinner with friedns, some are always have something to talk about and keep the convo interesting but when i have something to say I usually kill the subject cuase of my self doubt.

If its something I really understand and know about them i can maintain eye contact and keep it interesting. I feel silly typing this becuase im 22 and lack some social skills that many are good it.

Please any help would be great.

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Number1usjoe · Intermediate User Joined: Aug 05, 2006 Posts: 226

I also feel like I sabatoge conversations and am to brief and avoidant and give mixed signal to neighboors.

I feel I have have shy guy reputation and avodant problem but then I think to myself these people are also avoiding me.

I didnt mind considering I am 31 and most of my neighbors are way older married families so I figure that we had nothing in common. I also worry about judgements of my accomplisments marrital status and stuff like that.

These people arent saying hi to me as much as I am not saying anything to them is what I keep telling myself.

Its a weird limbo to not say anything to whole block for like 8 years. I say hi to direct neighbor lady but only hi and keep walking. Her kids never say a word to me and her husband is very quiet I keep thinking they have judged me as a loser and dont want to know me not that I have horrible social skills. I really know its both shyness and there judgements at same time.