Men with social anxiety are dangerous

Smoky · Guest

Ouch. And let's face it, you don't have a boyfriend either. Perhaps that's for the best -- I know for certain that I would find you intolerable as a girlfriend. Let's shut down the dialogue and make sure we continue to hate and fear each other without understanding or loving one another. Social phobia is hatred of others as much as it is fear of others, as your posts clearly demonstrate. Go ahead and inflict pain on me if it makes you feel more comfortable.

Oz · Posted: Wed Nov 17, 2004 9:55 pm Post subject:

social anxiety is the 3rd most common psychological disorder in the USA, some 12 MILLION people have this disoder. OF COURSE some rapists are going to have this condition, there are also plenty that dont.

Horatio · Posted: Wed Nov 17, 2004 9:59 pm Post subject:

Question... now that Ive established that because Im a male (and a socialphobic one at that) Im obviously evil and a danger to women, what am I to do now?

Is it better to be locked up before I commit the crimes that the percentages and society say that I am sure to do?

I have never committed rape, nor do I wish to, but by the disgusted looks I seem to get from females all the time I feel as though I have.

Smoky · Guest

So, you're a woman who is phobic of men and is a lesbian -- any you're happy this way. In my view, you are not a healthy, authentic, feminine woman. That's not to say that I can't respect you as a human. If you're happy with your life, then you're happy and I wouldn't want to change your mind about anything -- least of all not your sexual orientation.

But, from your standpoint, not one thing you say about relations between genders is credible. You can certainly speak about your own experiences and the experiences of others like you, but you don't have a decent point of view on relations between the genders generally.

And neither do I, considering that I fear women and assume that they hate me. But I am genuinely working hard in my "long distance learning course" to become healthy and balanced. I recognize that I have a problem and am trying hard on all fronts to remedy it.

LilMissTragic · Expert User Joined: Sep 05, 2004 Posts: 803

WTF is going on, I have just reread this thread numerous times and have realised everyones just getting paranoid about everyone elses point. Geez people, chill please, i'm getting a headache!

Guest · Posted: Wed Nov 17, 2004 11:31 pm Post subject:

Hatred, paranoia, insecurity, touchiness -- welcome to social anxiety.

No -- there were a few statements that were edited out of the posts and that's why it doesn't quite look like it follows.

tommy_15 · Advanced User Joined: Nov 16, 2004 Posts: 351

wistful_dementia · Intermediate User Joined: Sep 28, 2004 Posts: 173

I'm with you woman... you have a perfect right to have your say. One thing about getting over SA is learning that and not being intimidated by people who may accuse you of being wierd or a bitch or whatever. Life is about growing and learning, not avoiding. that is obviously only a temporary band-aid to avoid anxiety. Be strong, if men don't like that then maybe a world full of strong women will have to teach men the benifits of a strong woman. A world that has more strong, but empathetic men may help.

Horatio · Posted: Thu Nov 18, 2004 12:55 am Post subject:

suggesting that all males are dangerous and socialphobic males are rapists waiting to happen makes you a strong woman? Get a grip! Having your say is one thing, belittling others for having a penis is another. Like all the other guys on this forum I cant help it that I am male, I was born male! I understand that a lot of you woman have had bad experiences with guys and I think thats sad, but that doenst mean all guys are like that! Its bad enough to have all women reject me, but now they are saying its MY fault that they chose to date jerks instead!

wistful_dementia · Intermediate User Joined: Sep 28, 2004 Posts: 173

yes, I agree w/ you horatio, I think we all including worry have come to that agreement. Maybe not the original poster, but maybe she never intended on being fair. Being strong requires a person man or woman to be fair... other wise we would just be taking the easy way out. I'm not assuming that she isn't strong already, but it took courage for Worry to come on here and risk a bunch of defensive men scream at her and it also took courage for her to admit that she doesn't agree with the original poster. Anyways, I understand your defensiveness but there is no need in kicking around a point that has already been made. Let's get over it already! We all should be more fair.