Joined: Aug 30, 2004 Posts: 189 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Mon Dec 20, 2004 4:18 pm Post subject:
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CB, you raise a good point about keeping problems in perspective, but it is unhealthy to feel that you have no right to feel bad because your problems are different or less tangible compared to someone else
Agree completely! Dismissing your own unhappiness as unjustified because it's caused by processes in your own brain is understandable, but not fair, I think. As Nightshade shows, it complicates things more, too.
Remember this: statistically, the amount of famous genius and creative minds with mental problems is a very disproportionate majority to the amount in the general population, as partially demonstrated here: http://www.covenanthealth.com/coldfusionapplication/covhlthwhatsnew/detail.cfm?Post_ID=3684
Many of these people also appear to have had ‘easy’ lives on the surface, in fact bipolar disorder is more common among those high on the socio-economic scale. Yet we know that great creativity can only come from people who know considerable suffering. This surely suggests that mental illness is at least as potentially harmful as other causes of depression. A theory of mine for how? Although the fear is irrational, subsequent depression isn’t. It makes perfect sense to me even now, how I felt then about my life. A difference between mental problems and those caused by the external world is that you can’t usually pin your hopes on it getting better (although it has for me). You can just resign yourself to the idea that you’re always going to feel a certain way, and because you don’t understand it, you can’t control it and the outside world can’t make any difference, because the problem isn’t with the outside world. Few problems I can think of share this feature of seeming uncontrollable and permanent. The future becomes an impending, pointless, constant battle, so life becomes that too.
^That probably was a depressing argument, sorry.^ It doesn’t have to be like that forever, I was just describing a feeling : )
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Joined: Dec 10, 2004 Posts: 81 Location: New Zealand
Posted: Tue Dec 21, 2004 8:43 am Post subject:
racheH wrote:
You can just resign yourself to the idea that you’re always going to feel a certain way, and because you don’t understand it, you can’t control it and the outside world can’t make any difference, because the problem isn’t with the outside world. Few problems I can think of share this feature of seeming uncontrollable and permanent. The future becomes an impending, pointless, constant battle, so life becomes that too.
^That probably was a depressing argument, sorry.^ It doesn’t have to be like that forever, I was just describing a feeling : )
I can really relate to that feeling. Before I knew what depression was, and that I could get over it, it was just impossible to see a way out. I felt the same way about social phobia/ anxiety until a couple of weeks ago. But now, one of the things that really gets me through when I am down is knowing/ believing that it can and will get better.
I have to say that I'm feeling low right now because until I read this thread I hadn't really connected my previous difficulty dealing with other peoples problems as an aspect of social anxiety. It's progress to be able to understand the mechanism for the problem, but it's miserable remembering it. Still, "this too shall pass".
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