Ne1 blame this on the the way they were brought up?

diaspar · Posted: Wed Aug 10, 2005 8:57 pm Post subject:

Its one of the main reasons I was extremely shy as a teeenage. Because of this I missed out on dating & friendships with the opposite sex. From my late 20's I had control of my life and could have done more to be the person I wanted to be. So if anyone is to blame anyone now it would me. But I think of this more as being responcible for myself.

redlady · Elite User Joined: Jul 08, 2005 Posts: 1958

There are certainly quite a few bad experiences from my past and the way that i was brought up that contributed to my sp. My sister, brother and i have all suffered from some mental issue or another - we have a predisposition for mental illness from our father, making us more sensative to bad treatment. I feel nothing in the way of resentment towards him because of it - as it is completely beyond his control. Sometimes i have 'if only' thoughts and why couldn't things have been different / better for us - but honestly what's the point, it can't be changed. Certainly use your past to help move you forward - but don't hang on to it to keep you anchored down.