I am new to this forum. I just read a few of the posts. I have an avoidant personality sometimes. Many times it is with people whom I don't trust to treat me well.
I am thinking that this cannot me a disorder because there are quiet numerous people that refuse to acknowledge others.
For example, there was this guy from high school who was always friendly with me and talked to me in high school. Last year, I saw him walk by out the grocery store and he saw me but looked down. This was SO not like him. I saw another girl who used to wave and be friendly in high school and junior high, and she was with a friend looking at me strangely like she didn't want to acknowledge me. This wasn't like her.
I have had a customer from a store I worked at who saw me, but she pretended not to at the grocery store. Sometimes she was friendly when she needed to and sometimes not. Her husband was the super friendly one who always acknowledge me. This woman is talkactive with the other coworkers and certain customers. I don't understand them sometimes.
Some people are just so unpredictable or they are friendly on and off that I just simply avoid them. It's like what's the use in getting hurt by the unpredictable ones who refuse to be friendly when they wanna and friendly another time?
Sometimes i do this stupid thing, i pretend i dont see people i know, or i pretend i dont recognize them, its not because i am a bad person its just i am afraid of rejection, so i reject them first. The result is i give a prety bad impression of myself, and it ends up in rejection any way. They reject me because i am pretty stupid, so the thing iam afraid in the first place happens anyway.
So i cant cope whith people very well.
I do the same thing. The only time I go outside is to walk my dog, and whenever any of my neighbors come by I just start to focus on my dog to make it look like I'm preoccupied so they won't say hi to me. I'm really bad about figuring out when to make eye contact so I just stare at the dog to the point where I do it out of habit now, even in the house when I'm talking to my mom or my sisters.
Sometimes i do this stupid thing, i pretend i dont see people i know, or i pretend i dont recognize them, its not because i am a bad person its just i am afraid of rejection, so i reject them first.
I have read the rejection first is a common defense mechanism for various personality disorders. I certainly recognize that I have done that. With respect to not recognizing people, though, I don't need to pretend. I guess it's partly because I don't really look at them when I meet people, but I have been embarrassed many times when I encounter someone who addresses me by name and while I'm vaguely aware that I should know who they are, I just don't have any idea what their name is or the context in which I know them. It sure doesn't encourage further interaction. I fake as much recognition as I can, then try to get away without being found out.
They are just not nice people. They don't get you. It's no big deal, you don't need there approval or anything else from them. There are millions of people out there what's a few lost chips?
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