Remember when we were growing up and we saw all these adults and they were so calm and collected and thought they knew exactly who they were and what they wanted from life.
Now that I'm over 30, I'm one of those adults and I'm anything but calm and collected. I'm still like that little kid, confused and shaken..the only thing that really changes is that I get a little number ever year. The things that I used to enjoy like playing computer games just gets less and less exciting.
Den1,
I know what you mean about being the guy that takes all the piss. I'm always that person. I think alot of that has to do with being the 'push-over' guy. They guy they know will just laugh and not fight back very often. The person that they talk over and not listen too much too. Sometimes its so brutal out there, where you have to like be assertive and fight for every inch, just to be respected. You would think that being nice and cool would mean that people respect you more. Some do I know..but most will walk over you if they get the chance. Atleast that's my experience.
Sometimes joking and taking the piss is about being closer. I find that more when its just you and the other person. If its a group setting, then its like they do it more to better position themselves socially, because they know its much more painful in a group. I dunno.
Joined: Dec 17, 2006 Posts: 130 Location: Peter Harvey.... , Australia
Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 6:12 pm Post subject:
First of all happy birthday to den1 and IceLad. I don't know... as happy as a birthday can be.
For most people (I suppose non-SPic people) its probably a excuse to celebrate, as for me I donno, every birthday makes me think that extra number and the fact that I have only aged by a number only. I am especially conscious of big ones like 18,21 and 0 ones.
I too feel like a child.
I remember once this guy saying to his child, "let that man pass" referring to me. I felt so odd being referred to as a man. Like many here I too look young, but I suppose I must look older than 18 I guess.
Out of interest how do your parents treat you? Is it because you exhibit some aspects of child like behavior or is it normal for any parent? Does this affect your outlook?
First of all happy birthday to den1 and IceLad. I don't know... as happy as a birthday can be.
For most people (I suppose non-SPic people) its probably a excuse to celebrate, as for me I donno, every birthday makes me think that extra number and the fact that I have only aged by a number only. I am especially conscious of big ones like 18,21 and 0 ones.
I too feel like a child.
I remember once this guy saying to his child, "let that man pass" referring to me. I felt so odd being referred to as a man. Like many here I too look young, but I suppose I must look older than 18 I guess.
Out of interest how do your parents treat you? Is it because you exhibit some aspects of child like behavior or is it normal for any parent? Does this affect your outlook?
-SS
My parents have always shown me alot of love which is good in one way but it doesn't really toughen you up for the big bad world.
I act ALOT differently while at home in a very childlike playful, upbeat way, which if I acted that way out socialising or at work I really do not think I would be accepted atall. People would think I wasn't all there in the head.
Does anyone else have this coragious wierd part of themselves that they only show to a few trusted people and sort of lock it away from others as you think theres no way this part of you would ever be accepted?
I always feel the need to act alot more "street" than I actually am, as a sort of defence, people often joke about me being dodgey or up to no good because of my accent (manchester) and this way I act around people I find threatening.
This just results me feeling like I've sold my soul and no-one gets to know the "real" me but at the same time I do not know how to orchestrate the "real me" in public.
At the same time I am wondering wether alot of people who are confident socialy do actually have to make an effort to "act" sociable? Like finding what your own ego is, which is the part of you that you act upon in social situations?
Joined: Dec 17, 2006 Posts: 130 Location: Peter Harvey.... , Australia
Posted: Fri Jun 15, 2007 3:14 pm Post subject:
den1 wrote:
My parents have always shown me alot of love which is good in one way but it doesn't really toughen you up for the big bad world.
I know what you mean. My folks kinda did the same with me. They also drummed into me that I should be careful of strangers. No wonder I am SPic. I mean I am not blaming them for all my troubles, but it doesn't help always.
den1 wrote:
I act ALOT differently while at home in a very childlike playful, upbeat way, which if I acted that way out socialising or at work I really do not think I would be accepted atall. People would think I wasn't all there in the head.
Does anyone else have this coragious wierd part of themselves that they only show to a few trusted people and sort of lock it away from others as you think theres no way this part of you would ever be accepted?
I always feel the need to act alot more "street" than I actually am, as a sort of defence, people often joke about me being dodgey or up to no good because of my accent (manchester) and this way I act around people I find threatening.
Sorry I don't really understand demographics of UK too much. Everything I know about Britain, I have learnt from The Bill and I think all of you POMs are either Arsonists, Murders, Rapist or Drug dealers. and the rest of you are weirdos! (I watch Little Britain too).
den1 wrote:
This just results me feeling like I've sold my soul and no-one gets to know the "real" me but at the same time I do not know how to orchestrate the "real me" in public.
Hmm yeah... what sort of people would we be if we didn't have SP.
den1 wrote:
At the same time I am wondering wether alot of people who are confident socialy do actually have to make an effort to "act" sociable? Like finding what your own ego is, which is the part of you that you act upon in social situations?
My mom is over 50 and we were talking about a similar topic... she said that she still feels like she is in her 20s alot but her body doesnt feel that way.
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Sorry I don't really understand demographics of UK too much. Everything I know about Britain, I have learnt from The Bill and I think all of you POMs are either Arsonists, Murders, Rapist or Drug dealers. and the rest of you are weirdos! (I watch Little Britain too).
I understand how everyones feeling i feel the same way when surrounded by a crowd of people like i turn 10 again and dont know how to interact with "grown ups" maybe its me but sometimes i think if you're socially awkward people tend to not exactly in a horrible way speak down to you but in a kind of they dont know how to treat you sort of way they speak down to you. So it makes you feel young again. If that makes any sense
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and the rest of you are weirdos! (I watch Little Britain too). 
