Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2007 1:41 am Post subject: given up, i see why this forum is so popular now.
Just an observation, but u lot actualy read the bullitens that r negative rather than positive lol and u wounder why ur not gettin any where? Moan...Moan. im to shy to go to the shop. im to shy to speak to my mum. im to shy to take a dump in public toilets. DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!!!!!
learn how to communicate effectivly, get out more, make more effort! i mean if the reason why u find it hard talkin to people is coz u talk about negative things...that the reason why u ent gettin no where. make a conscience effort!
this is not a attack, i just think u lot thrive on reading bullitens that tell u 'were not alone!' rather than 'right...sort it out!'
lol you hypocrit. your saying we read too much negative shit and look what your posting. i think you need to get a life yourself man..this is who we are its what we do..this site has helped loads of people, if it doesnt help you for whatever reason, then piss off
ERMMM.......... LMAO. CANT HANDLE THE TRUTH NO? DONT STATE THE OBVIOUS PLEASE!!! WE BEG YOU!
LOOK...... I WAS SAYING THAT MAYBE PEOPLE SHOULD TRY INVESTING THERE TYPING TIME INTO SOMETHING POSITIVE, RATHER THAN DOOM OR GLOOM. I WERNT BEING OFFENSIVE, I WAS TRYING TO HELP!
TO BE HONEST, COZ READING THAT PEOPLE HAVE SAME PROBELEMS IS GREAT TO NO UR NOT ALONE, BUT DOES IT HELP YOU SORT OUT YOUR INDIVIDUAL PROBLEMS? THAT IS WHAT I WAS SAYING.........
JESUS NO WOUNDER YOUR LONELY IF U CANT TAKE CONSTRUCTIVE CRITISM......
scuse me..i can take constructive critism, but this site has helped so many people, but why the fuck are people like you even here? and why dont you take your own precious typing time doing something more positive, or better yet GO OUT AND SOCIALISE YOURSELF IF WE'RE SO NEGATIVE!!
coz im chilling at home! lol god. i came on here, coz unlike some...cough.... i sorted myself out, i didnt moan and feel sorry for myself, i just went out there and got on with it!!!! if u look at most bulliten titled 'some good advice' thats why i came on here! and sometimes...u may not like this, like the shorts incident, i did think she was older, and sometimes...people need that sorta critism to realise wait...im bein abit silly..now does that make sense luv?
coz im chilling at home! lol god. i came on here, coz unlike some...cough.... i sorted myself out, i didnt moan and feel sorry for myself, i just went out there and got on with it!!!! if u look at most bulliten titled 'some good advice' thats why i came on here! and sometimes...u may not like this, like the shorts incident, i did think she was older, and sometimes...people need that sorta critism to realise wait...im bein abit silly..now does that make sense luv?
You know... you are right, basically. Reveling in your problems gets you nowhere and yes, there's quite a lot of bulletins describing problems and deformations rather than advising in here (some of them, yes, written by me). I salute you for realizing how non-constructive it is. (I think sometimes it can get even DEstructive, people comforting each other by comparing their problems, trying to top each other, getting only more and more stuck.) But while I am sure you meant to help (yes, a decent kick in the ass IS a help sometimes), what emerged out of it seems to be only a lot of anger and hurting.
So what could be done to make this forum healthier? Try to put is this way, would you, and you might find a way how to help somebody. I feel I can't speak in plural here but yes, yes, sometimes I am a whiner. because sometimes I feel stuck. i'm sure you could plead me guilty if you wanted. but that's not what this forum is for. Go ahead and write some positive bulletins. (I think it would be great to hear your story. Tell us how did you cope with your problems instead of blaming us for not being able to deal with our ones.)
thank you for not having a go at me coz i have my own techniques on this one. and yes i will post a topic of why im sayin all this, and how it worked for me. so stay in tuned x
Joined: Jul 14, 2006 Posts: 633 Location: Australia
Posted: Fri Aug 03, 2007 5:34 am Post subject:
*sigh* I'm going to say something that makes me sound like worlds biggest cow...but here goes...(and no-body shoot me)
BUT......Excuse me, who the hell are you to tell us we moan and complain too much!!!!!!!!
Do you think if it was that easy to change it we would have done so already? People come here to share their problems and get advice, not to have someone say stupid crap about it!!!!!!!!!!!
DON'T MAKE FUN OF US, DON'T SAY STUFF ABOUT PEOPLE COMPLAINING ABOUT BEING TO SHY TO TAKE A DUMP IN A PUBLIC TOILET OR GO TO A SHOP........AND BY THE WAY, WHO SAYS PEOPLE HERE DON'T MAKE AN EFFORT, EVERYDAY IS A FREAKING EFFORT!!!!!!!!
THAT IS SO NOT CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM EITHER, THAT JUST MADE ME FEEL LIKE A BIGGER IDIOT, THANKS ALOT...NOW I'M TYPING IN CAPITAL LETTERS BECAUSE I'M CRANKY
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Wayne Campbell
Joined: Nov 21, 2005 Posts: 270 Location: Sydney, Oz
Posted: Sat Aug 04, 2007 10:49 am Post subject:
I agree somewhat. It's easy to mope around, it's a lot harder to do something about it. I think it's more of a support network here though which can be a good thing and I don't think many of us are qualified to give good advice.
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