How long have you been single?

Emma · Posted: Thu Apr 24, 2008 11:15 am Post subject:

A llllllllllllllllllloooooooooooooooooonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnng time, and probably will continue to be Crying or Very sad

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Great_Beyond · Newbie User Joined: Apr 14, 2008 Posts: 33

All my life. So 18 years.

de · Posted: Sat Apr 26, 2008 12:37 am Post subject:

like so many blokes on this site it has been suggested that i am gay and to be honest at this stage i would swap S.A for being homeosexual any day, im sick of this shit,the last date i was on was when i was 19 im now 22 23 in a few month like so many others in my life i cut her out which was the biggest mistake of my life because i really liked her.god im sick of being alone i guess its nobodys fault except my own

Dave_McFadden · Posted: Sat Apr 26, 2008 1:26 am Post subject:

Going on 11 years. And I ain't 11.

tweakedreality · Posted: Thu May 01, 2008 11:16 pm Post subject:

I actually just broke up with my gf of 6 months today, and alot of it had to do with her with me finally opening up to her about my SA yesterday, it makes me feel great let me tell you.

I really dont think I even want another g/f, this is the second time this SA thing has ended one of my relationships, the last time my gf thought i was crazy. Rolling Eyes

So yeah, thats about it Sad

I hate emo's but I also hate to admit it but this suicide thing is looking better and better every day, just getting quite tired.

We'll see I guess.

-Chris

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silentangel · Posted: Tue May 27, 2008 8:18 am Post subject:

been single now almost 3 years, my ex dumped me for one of our close friends Crying or Very sad

anyhow, i have 3 exes, and 2 of them told me they cheated on me coz im ugly physically. so yeah it hurt alot but i got over it. i dont know if il ever get another partner. i trust in the Lord and if it isnt meant to be, so be it.

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Carstuar · Posted: Tue May 27, 2008 11:25 am Post subject:

Short version:
I've been in three relationships that lasted no more than 6 months, and I've now been single for a little more than a year.

The first one was a stupid mistake when I was 16. She was a crazy "bad girl", and didn't treat me well. I think I only went out with her because the sex thing was new and exciting. (This was before SA)

The second one was actually really really great for a while. I was 17/18. She was in my class in school. I was depressed, but she was attracted to me for some reason, and managed to pull me out of it and got me into a group of good friends. She was very sweet and we shared some interests in music and movies. The only problem was she lived 45 minutes away, had strict parents, and a tight schedule. We argued a lot, and discovered that we were quite different. She liked to go out and do stuff in big groups, while I prefer being with just a few people in quiet places. She talks alot, and I have a hard time keeping a conversation going.
In the end she dumped me because I was too emotionally needy.
This is where my SA started to get severe and turned into AvPD. I could no longer hang out with that group of friends because it was too painful to run into her all the time, and I got more depressed than ever.
Shortly afterwards, I had fallen too far behind in school to catch up.

The third one I met online. I was 19. She seemed like the perfect girl for me. We shared so many interests and points of view. I mean, it takes A LOT to fall in love over just the internet and the phone.
All of a sudden I had fresh motivation to push my AvPD aside!
Distance was a big obstacle here, though. I live in the far south of Norway, and she lives in the far north. Norway is bigger than it seems, when it comes to traveling through it. We met twice. Once in the middle, and once I took trains and buses for more than 24 hours to get to her. Both times it was absolutely fantastic. But again, my depression and neediness scared her off in the end, in combination with the distance.
I wish so badly that things had turned out different between us. I feel like I missed my shot at "true love".
AvPD came back, even more severe now. I also put on A LOT of weight after this, which I'm still struggling to lose every day.

Here's a Japanese expression:
Better never to have met you in my dream than to wake and reach for hands that are not there.

I don't consider myself better off than people who have always been single. All I remember is pain, and even the good memories like first kisses and stuff lead to more pain.

There's my sob story >_>. Feel free to just read the short version ;P

Siren · Newbie User Joined: May 14, 2008 Posts: 50 Location: USA

My whole life, thanks. So 17 years.

gh1234 · Newbie User Joined: Feb 17, 2008 Posts: 16

19 right now and never had a GF... moving onto 20 and probably still going to be that way

villacjs · Posted: Sun Jun 01, 2008 5:40 am Post subject:

I am 22 and I have been single for 22 years Sad

. It is still my fault, because I have never asked a girl out, mainly because of never finding the 'right' girl. I went to an all boys private high school so I never got to meet any girls in those years. I never met any girls outside of school back in those days either because I never had the chance (SA). I go to uni (college) now I cant start a random conversation with just any girl around. I also don't have a job or any interests (because of SA Rolling Eyes

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I wish I could just get over SA and start dating but that is a long way off at the moment.