Do you ever avoid men or women you like?

Cruddy · Newbie User Joined: Jul 04, 2008 Posts: 6

Oh my god. Im going through this exact and I mean EXACT thing with a guy at my work. Ive never had this happen to me before. He stares at me in a way Ive never seen a guy stare at me. Sometimes when he looks at me his mouth is literally open like he's in awe. My friend at work has seen this too. This guy goes out of his way to be around me, walk near me, talk to my friends while Im there, become animated with his friends while Im there and keeps looking over at me alot. This will go on for weeks then it stops and he completely avoids me. He literally disappears. He goes for breaks somewhere else, doesnt walk anywhere near me and if he sees me coming (I can see him looking out of the corner or his eye) he wont turn his head and he suddenly looks tense and stiff. I have noticed, however, that he does still look at me but in a more covert kind of way. Ive caught him a few times. We used to talk often and started to get to know each other but then he pulled away and all this avoidance started.
As with the woman who posted a similar story to mine, I too have noticed this guy buzzes around me when he's happiest and having a good go of things at work. I dont think he's ever met a female like me who is open, secure, mature, funny, capable, honest and caring. I know he was divorced last year and I think maybe he might have emotional intimacy issues. Dont know for sure though.
I know that he gets women quite easily and he slept with this awful and insecure girl at work that he doesnt think I know about. Everytime I caught him standing and talking to her he would get nervous and step away from her. Im not gorgeous by any means but I feel a very strong chemistry between us and I firmly believe that him and I have very similar personalities. I also think we have alot of the same tastes in music, art, entertainment and humour. He talks so much like me that it actually freaks me out. I think he thinks that too. We are both very funny and animated people but we just cant seem to break through this weirdness. I've barely seen him in the last 3 weeks and when it comes to me he looks worried and sad. My friend even said,the other day, that he seems like an unhappy guy. Yet, around other people he's very outgoing, funny, smart and capable. He's very good looking but something is wrong and it breaks my heart for both him and me. I just want to give him a big hug and sit down to talk with him but I know men can get very weirded out by stuff like that so I will never do it.