I feel ugly

persian · Newbie User Joined: Apr 12, 2007 Posts: 28

I am ugly. Outside and inside. Especially on the outside. Rolling Eyes

Argamemnon · Advanced User Joined: Jan 15, 2008 Posts: 362

SocialRetahd · Expert User Joined: Dec 02, 2006 Posts: 762

theman · Newbie User Joined: Feb 20, 2008 Posts: 54

You ARE ugly.

I don't mean physically, but mentally.

Unlike men, who gauge a woman's attractiveness based upon cultural standards and some very basic dimensions of her body, women base most of their opinion of your attractiveness upon your own opinion of yourself, how you treat yourself, and how well you present yourself. Women's opinions of MEN are based almost entirely upon qualities which reveal a man's 'self-image' and 'confidence.' Your physical form is actually of little interest to most women.

Men look at the surface FIRST and work their way down. Women judge you by your core first and work their way out.

Funny, but true.

SO, when you say all those awful things about yourself, and believe them, and carry yourself in such a way as to exhibit those traits (oh yes, women can tell that you believe those things about yourself)....women WILL think you're UGLY.

So in a strange way, it is a self fulfilling prophecy.

The good news is this: all you have to do to become attractive to women is work on your core, work on your confidence, work on your self-talk and self treatment. For a woman, this is a tougher challenge because guys are so focused on the EXTERIOR, in order to really become more attractive, a woman must change her physical appearance.

So it is harder for a woman to change her attractiveness than for a man.

Here's what I'd suggest: Treat yourself like a very important person. What would you do for the most important person in your life? Take them out for exercise, read the best books, eat healthy food, try exciting things, etc.

I was right there with you for a long time. It sucks, but right now you're absolutely right.

PROVE YOURSELF WRONG. There are plenty of resources out there. If you don't want to use mine, use someone else's, but get this done for yourself. It can be done, and the rewards are HUGE.

scareddd · Newbie User Joined: Mar 14, 2008 Posts: 2

whenever i'm around people, i start to think about how i look in their eyes and what they think of me and i just want to escape. i rarely leave my room anymore.

i'm really judgmental about how ppl look and that makes me even more self conscious. i try not to be, but it takes me a while to see ppl pass their appearance.

tbh, your photo doesn't seem ugly to me at all. i wouldn't comment on how you look if i honestly thought you were ugly...i don't think i'm mentally healthy enough to give encouraging words -_-

SocialRetahd · Expert User Joined: Dec 02, 2006 Posts: 762

To be honest, recluse's looks don't hurt or help. Some people here have looks that are below average and are truly at a disadvantage.

blonderedhead · Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 4:14 am Post subject:

I think I'm ugly too. Sometimes if I have something to do in the bathroom like brush my hair or brush my teeth I have to turn my back to the mirror or keep the lights off. And I would like to think that I'm not that vain. I dont think it has anything to do with what I look like I just cant stand myself at all as a person sometimes.