"There's nothing wrong with you, your just lazy". is prehaps the most agonizing one for me.
Makes me feel that no matter what I say, what evidence I can support it with, to the eyes of the average person... I'm just plain lazy.
_________________ Intellectual honesty is characterized by a readiness to scrutinize what one believes to be true, and to pay sufficient attention to other evidence available
"There's nothing wrong with you, your just lazy". is prehaps the most agonizing one for me.
Makes me feel that no matter what I say, what evidence I can support it with, to the eyes of the average person... I'm just plain lazy.
I've gotten that from my dad a lot. A few times I have quit a job because something embarassing happened, or somebody embarassed me and i blushed and then thought "I can never go back, because now they know I am weak." So what do I do? I quit of course.
So many times, my dad would say "You just don't want to work, you're just lazy."
But in his defense, he doesn't really understand mental health problems at all, because he's never had them.
People who have never had mental health issues will never understand, and will always think to themselves shit like, "Wow, I could never sit around and feel sorry for myself like that" or "They're really lazy!"
Just another case of people commenting on stuff they know absolutely nothing about. It happens a lot in society IMO
From my mom "What did I do so wrong in life to get you?".
Another one from my mom "This is the daughter I wanted, you're not close to it". Talking about her 26 year old co-worker. Her and my mom drink a lot together and her co worker is selfish just like my mom.
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Posted: Mon May 26, 2008 2:53 am Post subject: Re: one comment which has affected your confidence
recluse wrote:
What's one thing in your lifetime that someone told you that has affected your confidence?
My father, when I was like 9-10 years old said:
Why are you talking like this? What's 'your' matter? (with a hard-angry tone)
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I started to stutter when I was very young, around 7-8 years old.... It's not that bad, I've seen much much worse cases and mine would be considered mild, but still...... It's the main cause of me not socializing and avoiding oral presentations, arguments and anything oral(like talking ... but not oral 'ceks' - which I've never had). I'm actually having my last exam today which I'll skip after four weeks of postponing it. It's in about 5 hours.... It's an oral presentation. It sux considering that I got 7 straight A's and A+'s in all my other exams in this course which had to be written down and weren't oral. Because of this last exam, I get failed in this important language course.....
I guess I'll have to try another exam in September... that one will only be in front of 2 other students and 2 teachers, and i wouldn't know any of them so it's less humiliating.
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The comment that my father made didn't actually bother me much because i was very little... but whenever i start saying something long, like a story which i always avoid saying, then everyone immediately notice my stuttering, then I'll go red, and everyone start joking about me, or start making funny faces while others are looking. My teachers would always say: be brave, concentrate on what you're going to say... but it always gets worse when i think about it. The good thing is that i don't stutter when saying a small sentence, or answering with a few words. But i can not read loud in a group, and i can't talk to a group of people.
The combination of all the comments that people make about my way of speaking, have changed my confidence a lot.
After weeks, maybe months of thinking about it, I have accepted that I should just be with myself and no one else, I've started to learn computer programming, and I'm planning on working somewhere that i won't be required to talk a lot. However I'm just 20 and I will study further to earn a degree, but i don't exactly want or need a social life. I have three great friends, but they all live and study abroad. And I'm fine with them, don't need anyone else.
It feels great to accept not needing a normal social life.......... I work and learn much more now because I concentrate on my tasks.
More than half the things i wrote now were unrelated, so sorry. Just wanted to write something down.......
I can't remember anything that someone has said that has hurt me. It's all the things that they don't say that I notice and it hurts a lot. Like when people that you like talking to stop talking to you when another person that they find more interesting comes around and you know that they think you are a boring person, but they don't say it. I hate when this happens because I like talking to that certain person, but I can't find anything to talk about and they respond with a very short answer that implies I should stop talking or they laugh a little and say nothing. I don't recognize it immediately, but when I get home I feel really sad and it hurts.
Anyone else feel like this? (I know I suck at describing exactly how I feel, but there's just a lot to say.)
but I did punch the guy, he got a broken nose and I got suspended from school for 2 days.
Lol! Good going!!
Err...i mean, violence is really bad, in every situation.
Yeah it was weird. I mean I treat everyone with respect and I'm not the type to pick a fight. It did feel good though, liked I stepped up for all of us with SA.
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