Joined: Aug 17, 2007 Posts: 1301 Location: Wales, UK
Posted: Tue May 27, 2008 6:06 am Post subject:
Caseums21 wrote:
From my mom "What did I do so wrong in life to get you?".
Another one from my mom "This is the daughter I wanted, you're not close to it". Talking about her 26 year old co-worker. Her and my mom drink a lot together and her co worker is selfish just like my mom.
Omg! How mean of your mother to say something like that. I remember my mother saying to me ''why can't you be more like i## and his sister from up the road''....Next thing she got banned for drink driving, and he's wrecked more cars that i've worn socks, so am i wrong for being decent!?
From my mom "What did I do so wrong in life to get you?".
Another one from my mom "This is the daughter I wanted, you're not close to it". Talking about her 26 year old co-worker. Her and my mom drink a lot together and her co worker is selfish just like my mom.
Omg! How mean of your mother to say something like that. I remember my mother saying to me ''why can't you be more like i## and his sister from up the road''....Next thing she got banned for drink driving, and he's wrecked more cars that i've worn socks, so am i wrong for being decent!?
I hate judgemental parents! It's like they don't see their child as a person, but as an extension of themselves to be moulded in their own image (what are they - gods?!) and exhibited to the world as proof of how successful they are. If the moulding doesn't work and (shock, horror) the child becomes a separate being with his own unique strengths and weaknesses, the controlling parent gets angry and takes it as a personal insult. Fuck them I say - haven't they heard of unconditional love?
Anyway, another comment I remember is from my teacher when I was around 10. We regularly had a reading hour where we'd all sit on the carpet by the teacher's chair and read our own choice of book. I loved it because I've always been a bookworm, so I'd really get lost in the stories. I had a habit of occasionally pulling faces while I read, which was my way of empathising with the characters. For instance if someone was really angry or frightened I'd try to pull that expression to see if I could feel the same way. Of course the teacher noticed and this must've looked pretty strange to her. Instead of asking me about it, she told me in front of the whole class to stop pulling faces, then asked the class to keep an eye on me and tell me when I was doing it as I obviously didn't realise that I was! I was absolutely mortified To add insult to injury, when I scowled at her as she was saying this (because I was only 10 and too scared to back-talk a teacher) she came out with "Look, you're doing it again now!"
Um no, it was intentional actually...
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Faces come out of the rain
When you're strange
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Joined: May 26, 2008 Posts: 20 Location: Cape Town
Posted: Tue May 27, 2008 9:11 am Post subject:
my exes told me after we broke up that i looked like a pig...and it was hell on earth to look at me day in and day out.... well im not a beauty queen, neither do i wanna be. society nowadays only focus on the physical attributes and dont even bother to get to really know the person.
my step sister and her boyfriend came to stay with us at the weekend, i've met her bf before but for only like 10 minutes at a time, well anyways we were sat in the garden having a cig. and we were having quite a good conversation (a miracle in itself) about like my problems (a bigger miracle as i never really talk to people about stuff) anyways we'd been outside for like 40 minutes when she came over and sat with us, we continued talking, then she said, "oh poor little sum, dont you think other people have problems, come on rob lets go out it's a really nice day we'll go to the park a shame to be cooped up at home all day." i could have punched her, what hurt the most is the fact that her bf apologized for her behaviour later. i knew she was spiteful, but not evil with it.
_________________ "Fear is that little darkroom where negatives are developed."
my step sister and her boyfriend came to stay with us at the weekend, i've met her bf before but for only like 10 minutes at a time, well anyways we were sat in the garden having a cig. and we were having quite a good conversation (a miracle in itself) about like my problems (a bigger miracle as i never really talk to people about stuff) anyways we'd been outside for like 40 minutes when she came over and sat with us, we continued talking, then she said, "oh poor little sum, dont you think other people have problems, come on rob lets go out it's a really nice day we'll go to the park a shame to be cooped up at home all day." i could have punched her, what hurt the most is the fact that her bf apologized for her behaviour later. i knew she was spiteful, but not evil with it.
that was a pretty bitchy thing to say although it sounds like your sister was jealous or felt threatened lol
When I was like 8yo my teacher was pairing boys and girls for a school proyect and the boy that I was paired with said: " Not fair, I'm stuck with the ugly girl"
i don't want to spend my life remembering what other people said to me that caused me anxiety, depression.....
i have created a rule that i strictly adhere to, i have a recycle bin in my mind, i put in it every event, every comment that caused me any stress in my life, and i never look back at it again.
every time that this event tries to come to surface, i repress it (it is called repression in psychology).
"All you ever do is laugh, don't you talk?!"
I was always a "listener", laughing and smiling etc at the right times because I always thought that people wouldn't notice how shy I was if I looked like I was interested in what they were saying, but apparantly that just made it more obvious...
My so called best friends used to bully me for having boobs (why this is a bad thing I'll never know but it still made me feel like crap) and an fat ass; I've never even been fat, they just singled me out for not looking the same - it's just the fact I was never painfully skinny like them. Pretending to find it funny got old VERY fast.
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To add insult to injury, when I scowled at her as she was saying this (because I was only 10 and too scared to back-talk a teacher) she came out with "Look, you're doing it again now!"
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