I have no one to talk to, super lonely

theloneliest · Newbie User Joined: Apr 28, 2008 Posts: 6

i have no friends, my mother doesn't talk to me, I get a lot of chances for a girlfriend but I am too shy to go for it so i fuck it up. I am always nervous. I really think I am going crazy slowly, the same way someone in jail who never sees anyone so they go crazy, but faster than me of course.

anyone I try to talk to says "just go make friends" well it's hard when every kid at school always treated you like shit and you never had a friend. please tell me what to do. I have no one to talk to. I am not depressed, I am mostly lonely from all my ruined chances. what can be done. I think I am crazy.

I want to die from the loneliness. I would never try to suicide although I will always suffer always. I really can't talk to anyone at all. I am in new jersey.

TAMPA-BAY · Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 3:02 am Post subject: LONELY

Well you have already took the first step by comming here. Stick around and start posting here. You can start off with online friends then maby meet them in real life.

silentbutdeadly · Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 6:11 am Post subject:

Try visiting the chat room, for starters. I've noticed that I'm able to open up more in a chat room than even in a forum.

And my friends in the past have said that I'm a lot easier to talk to in things like an instant messenger program. Definitely take baby steps. When you've talked to someone online it makes it easier to talk to them in person, I think. Talking online can be a way of making a habit of talking to people.

But anyways...have you tried talking to a doctor? I don't know how bad your problem is but social anxiety/social phobia really is considered a medical problem, and there are doctors out there who are capable of helping people like you and me.

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MotherWolff · Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 10:56 am Post subject:

I don't have any friends either. I figure its mainly because I'm socially inept and I trust no one. It would be difficult to suddenly make friends after years of having no friends. Maybe you could begin making friends online, since its probably easier for you to speak to others from a distance. I would recommend paying a visit to the chat room here, but when I try to go into it, the whole internet closes out on me(I wonder if its incompatible with the Fire Fox program). Confused

But the question is, how would these people truly act in person?

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Lonely now, as I always was, I cry the lonely cry of a wolf. -By Nadine Mondrae,age 13

scorpion · Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 11:56 am Post subject:

Well MotherWolff do you have JAVA?
If you dont get MIRC from the internet, you should pay a visit to the chat here, its wort the effort.
I have foud that chatting online realy helps me with my APD, so maybe it can help you too.

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MotherWolff · Posted: Thu May 01, 2008 4:46 am Post subject:

Hey thanks scorpion, JAVA was what I needed.However, there was hardly anyone on the SPW chatroom. I always seem to visit chatrooms at the wrong time of the day. When I'm in one its like there's hardly anyone to there to speak to. And alot of times I worry too much about saying the wrong things. Don't you theloneliest? But I won't give up the chatrooms idea just yet. I just have to get into the habit of going to those more often.

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The Lone Wolf's Cry

Lonely now, as I always was, I cry the lonely cry of a wolf. -By Nadine Mondrae,age 13

theloneliest · Newbie User Joined: Apr 28, 2008 Posts: 6

I need friends now.

theloneliest · Newbie User Joined: Apr 28, 2008 Posts: 6

I don't know if i said this but I have no friends really. and I am going crazy, I need a gf but I am too shy. I need someone to talk to now and I really wish I could be gone.

TAMPA-BAY · Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 12:36 am Post subject: friends

Hi theLoneliest. I think you should stop focusing so much on haveing friends and focus more on just interacting with people who share similar intrest.

Friendships dont happen relationships dont happen over night. Before you can have friends you must first just be around people weather it be online or in real life.

shield · Intermediate User Joined: Mar 20, 2008 Posts: 152

U can always choose to get better when you feel ready, so never give up. Also stop wanting relationships just let go. The attitude that you need friends is driving you crazy not the actual situation. Despite what you may think you can be content to live alone. You will not go crazy as long as you are around others from time to time even if you don't talk with them. Let go of outcome focus on plan for recovery Wink