Joined: Aug 17, 2007 Posts: 1149 Location: Wales, UK
Posted: Mon May 05, 2008 5:43 pm Post subject: Don't like the person i have become
I have turned into a short tempered asshole. I don't know what it is but people are pissing me off more than ever. I never used to get angry when driving for instance but now if there's a slow driver in front of me....Arrrgghhh! I just have no patience for anyone like i used to, i feel sellfish and almost arrogant. I feel that i am nasty to my parents and i feel bad about it.
You have to know yourself if you really HATE the people or you are just pissed off because you are impatient - there is nothing wrong with that I think. Then you can swear in your car as long as nobody hears you .
i feel exactly the same way.sometimes i will even catch my self thinking about being in a fight and beating someone even though i never had a fight and i totally don't agree with beating people!and i also treat my parents like shit although i know they are the best people i know maybe it's because i want to blame someone for my situation because don't believe it's my fault for being like this
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Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 4:37 am Post subject: Re: Don't like the person i have become
recluse wrote:
I have turned into a short tempered asshole. I don't know what it is but people are pissing me off more than ever. I never used to get angry when driving for instance but now if there's a slow driver in front of me....Arrrgghhh! I just have no patience for anyone like i used to, i feel sellfish and almost arrogant. I feel that i am nasty to my parents and i feel bad about it.
Yeah, ya know I was going to start a thread about this until I saw yours.
I am short with my family sometimes too, and driving pisses me off so much. Some of my friends have said "Well, everybody hates driving," but I don't think they get it. I will take it really personally if someone cuts me off, and I'll get EXTREMELY angry if a light changes yellow when I'm too far away to gun it and drive through. Then I'll usually yell to myself "That light always changes to yellow before I can go through!"
I don't know what it is, but I think it's just feeling overwhelmed with work, being unhappy with where I am in my life, and I'm projecting it onto other things. Also, usually when I am driving I am going somewhere I don't want to be (i.e. work) so I'm not in the best mood anyway.
Have you ever tried meditating or deep breathing. It has helped me, but I still have anger problems.
The easiest thing to do is take it out on others. Family is terrible, because you are so comfortable with them, they are the easiest to yell at. I find that I'm this way sometimes. Like someone else has basically said, when I'm upset about something I have to be doing (going to work, going out somewhere, giving a presentation in school), I get so wound up thinking about it that the slightest things that happen will release all of my emotions. I try to find other ways to release...writing helps, taking a walk in an uninhabited area to think and talk to myself, yelling and screaming in the backyard with my little cousins help aswell.
I think a lot of us, (myself, for sure) feel like we dont have a right to get angry or stand up for ourselves, but really we have just as much claim on being a pain in the ass as anyone else does. If someone is being a dick to me, and i just let them walk all over me, then i get twice as angry at myself. It's okay to let people know that they need to back off, is what im getting at.
and oh god, dont get me started on traffic!! The other day, i was driving on the interstate, when the lane i was in started to end unexpectedly (construction), i NEEDED to get over, but this DICK in a huge pickup was in the lane beside me, and he would NOT let me get over!(like, when i sped up, HE sped up, when i slowed down, HE slowed down. what the hell?!) I had to slam on my brakes going 70 to keep from flying off into the woods! Agh! If i could've got at that guy...but i couldnt so i just layed on the horn and flipped him off when i caught up with him. All he did was speed up and lose me. MORAL OF THE STORY, if some skid-mark thinks it's okay to try and END MY DAMN LIFE, i can harrass him and throw obscene gestures at him for a couple of miles.
Joined: Aug 17, 2007 Posts: 1149 Location: Wales, UK
Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 5:47 pm Post subject:
Drivemycar wrote:
The easiest thing to do is take it out on others. Family is terrible, because you are so comfortable with them, they are the easiest to yell at. I find that I'm this way sometimes. Like someone else has basically said, when I'm upset about something I have to be doing (going to work, going out somewhere, giving a presentation in school), I get so wound up thinking about it that the slightest things that happen will release all of my emotions. I try to find other ways to release...writing helps, taking a walk in an uninhabited area to think and talk to myself, yelling and screaming in the backyard with my little cousins help aswell.
Yes because i am comfortable with them, but i feel bad whenether i am like this.
I am the same way... I find myself short with people. Getting annoyed easily. Generally disliking society. Getting frustrated with my family quickly.. I'm trying not to be so easily annoyed though.
All I can say is maybe try being physically active.. To get your energy out. I'm trying it, hoping for it to work.
Reason and exercise works for me, reason because most of time things just need to be thought over. And energy can be expressed through exercise rather than violence. Personally following the bibles advice on these small issues in life has been stupendously beneficial and suprisingly satisfying to do.
RedRibbons wrote:
All I can say is maybe try being physically active.. To get your energy out. I'm trying it, hoping for it to work.
I should get round to doing that also.
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