Do you ever want to have children?

Coper · Newbie User Joined: May 30, 2008 Posts: 45

I don't. Mainly, I think it would put me in all sorts of situations that would make me socially anxious. Secondly, I think about all the grief I've caused my parents, and I wouldn't want to have to put up with that from my hypothetical children. Thirdly, I worry that they would inherit SA and/or depression from me. Fourthly, I worry that taking care of them would be so much work that it would detract from my career, which is already so much work that I can barely cope with it.

On the other hand, not wanting to have children, ever, seems like a problematic obstacle when I think about starting to date. Assuming most girls I meet would like to eventually start a family, how would I screen them out? I don't want to get in a long-term relationship, only to have to end it because of this issue. OTOH, it seems like it would be weird to bring it up the first time I meet a girl. And god knows I don't want to get roped into having children just so I can stay with a girl I like. Rolling Eyes

Psychedelicious · Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 2:57 am Post subject:

I don't want children!! To be honest children annoy me and I don't like having to deal with them. I wouldn't want to bring a child into my screwed up enviroment, for my, as well as the childs sake. I would just get really frustrated with them and I wouldn't want to do anything bad!!!! Not all women want children, don't worry so much Wink

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bleach · Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 2:58 am Post subject:

I would probably wind up raising a child the way I was raised. The wrong way. I don't need that on my conscience.

Coper · Newbie User Joined: May 30, 2008 Posts: 45

Hrm, forgot to add an option for "I already have a child/children" Confused

RedRibbons · Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 3:21 am Post subject:

hmm I want children. But at the same time.. I don't. I'm not 100% sure of my motives.. But I would like to create something between my hypothetical husband and I.

To raise a child together, and to love it. To give it opportunities and help it to become a great person. To bring someone into this world to help change the world. That's just hoping though.

Yea. There is a possibility of my child developing anxiety/ocd/depression or any other 'illness/disorder'... I think I would be able to understand and cope though, for the most part..

Yea...

_Brittany_ · Intermediate User Joined: Apr 01, 2008 Posts: 171

NO WAY JOSE!

ripewithdecay · Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 6:53 am Post subject:

Yeah, I think i'd be an awesome/fun dad. It's actually one of the things i look forward to later in life. (hopefully things start to get better soon...)

Hael · Newbie User Joined: Jun 14, 2008 Posts: 7

I have two children. My son has been diagnosed with social phobia and depression. However - later he received a diagnosis of aspergers - he still stuggles.
My daughter is very shy.

KevinMF · Newbie User Joined: Jun 14, 2008 Posts: 8

ktea · Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 10:48 am Post subject:

I don't want to have kids, EVER. #1 reason being that the thought of being intimate with someone terrifies me.

Also I don't want to go through the physical pain, and I'd prefer not to have stretchmarks, thanks. Kids are just headaches and money-wasters wrapped up in cute little packages.

Some people should never procreate... I am one.

Also my genes aren't exactly what one would call "desirable."