I would probably want to have kids if I found the right person to live the rest of my life with. My only criteria then would be that my confidence would allow me to keep from passing my social anxiety on to my children.
In my case, social anxiety was (to some extent) passed down from my father. I want to make sure that my behavior doesn't turn my children into insecure, miserable, suicidal little rejects. I think we all should.
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Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 11:01 pm Post subject:
VioletTears wrote:
Awww, thanks, SleepySparrow:) I'm sure that you are, too.
I think that one possitive is that we tend to have this knack for analyzing what people are thinking and feeling, which isn't so good when we use it to fuel our paranoia about what people might think of US, but it can actually be a good thing as a parent. It helps us to be more sensitive and responsive to our children's emotions.
Exactly! I agree completely!
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Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 11:06 pm Post subject:
celestialrecluse wrote:
omg VioletTears your son is so cayute!!
i agree whole heartedly with everything sleepysparrow said!
i want to have children someday, obviously when im more emotionally and financially stable, i have two little brothers who are my life at the moment, i look after them like 90% of the time, so in a way i already have two kids.lols!
Aw, how old are your little brothers?
I agree, being financially and emotionally stable is definately important. Our children will love us and respect us as long as we love and respect them.
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Thanks, Celestial:) I think he's pretty darn cute myself:) Hopefully when you are ready things will be in place. I actually got hit with baby fever when I was in my last year of college, unemployed and not yet married, lol! I guess it was about 2 1/2 or 3 years later that we started trying for a baby, but it felt like so much longer! I also wanted to be financially stable/secure and at a less stressful period in my life before starting a family.
I definitely want to have children someday, but I just can't see it happening. I don't think anything will quite change your life like having a child, for better or for worse. But it seems like so many of us with social anxiety will never have that big of a change in our lives.
Yeah, here I am worrying about having a kid, when I should consider myself lucky if I ever even have the opportunity to impregnate a woman.
No, NEVER. Life has it good things and bad but ultimately it is doomed to fail. Some (like us) have a shitty life, and suffer more then others and wished they were never born..well there is always a possibility my child would feel the same and i rather not put him/her through pointless suffering, only to have a crappy life ending it with death.
I'm def anti-life, and i seriously think mankind was a horrible mistake..primates who got too smart and now we suffer greatly and bring suffering unto others (animals,earth,...).
So yeah, only to find a partner who doesn't want children is great..but it's pretty hard, many are brainwashed by Society into thinking this will bring them happiness...hardly.
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