Joined: Jun 04, 2008 Posts: 251 Location: The heart of the sun
Posted: Sun Jun 15, 2008 11:42 pm Post subject:
LittleMissScareAll wrote:
already got one on the way...
Congrats!! When are you due?
_________________ I want ecstasy. I am a neurotic — in the sense that I live in my world. I will not adjust myself to the world. I am adjusted to myself.
I definitely want to have children someday, but I just can't see it happening. I don't think anything will quite change your life like having a child, for better or for worse. But it seems like so many of us with social anxiety will never have that big of a change in our lives.
Yeah, here I am worrying about having a kid, when I should consider myself lucky if I ever even have the opportunity to impregnate a woman.
No, NEVER. Life has it good things and bad but ultimately it is doomed to fail. Some (like us) have a shitty life, and suffer more then others and wished they were never born..well there is always a possibility my child would feel the same and i rather not put him/her through pointless suffering, only to have a crappy life ending it with death.
I'm def anti-life, and i seriously think mankind was a horrible mistake..primates who got too smart and now we suffer greatly and bring suffering unto others (animals,earth,...).
So yeah, only to find a partner who doesn't want children is great..but it's pretty hard, many are brainwashed by Society into thinking this will bring them happiness...hardly.
Joined: Jun 15, 2008 Posts: 21 Location: on the last bus out of town
Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 5:30 am Post subject:
I LOVE children, and for a long time I always kind of assumed I'd have some of my own. My parents would always talk about how they can't wait to have grandchildren, and say things like "when you have children of your own..." I kind of came under the assumption that giving birth was some kind of necessary legitimization of your adulthood and your marriage/life partnership. And of course the idea of making a cute little baby that looks like you is ridiculously appealing to my feminine biology...
But then again:
1. I can't imagine a time in my life when I would be mature, responsible, and emotionally healthy enough to raise a child,
2. I wouldn't be able to live with myself if my kid inherited my psychological issues. I'm not just talking about genes...I mean seriously, I do NOT need to be inadvertently teaching a child my thought processes.
3. I've never felt life was enjoyable, what gives me the right to make someone else suffer through it?
4. I like my body the way it is. I don't want to stretch it all out.
5. Baby in my vag?! OWIE.
But the biggest reason of all:
There are WAY too many people on the planet as it is, and WAY WAY WAY too many hopeless and impoverished orphans. I'm sure I could love a child who didn't share my genes every bit as much as one who does, and those are the ones that need me more. So if I did ever get over holdups 1 and 2, adoption would definitely be the way I'd go.
Joined: Jun 02, 2008 Posts: 10 Location: California
Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 7:04 am Post subject:
no, i dont want children. the world is already over populated...and why would would i bring more innocent children to this screwed up world in which we live in? it's not fair to them
_________________ Just saying 'no' prevents teenage pregnancy the way 'Have a nice day' cures chronic depression.
Thanks...and well, not as excited as most pregnant women probably are(I felt the way alot of people here have mentioned about having children--I used to say I would never have kids cause I don't wanna bring someone into this awful world and have them possibly wind up to have the same problems I do when they're older)...and what makes it even worse & makes me less excited is that I'm about to be divorced after being married to an abuser-- the baby's dad. But what can I do....It's not the baby's fault. I'll love it and try to be the best mom I can be.
Joined: Apr 23, 2005 Posts: 982 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 5:56 pm Post subject:
Id love to have kids,specialy for my gf to see her as a mum... shes so maternal and would make such a top mum... im probaly biased but shes just great round kids it comes really natural.Id love to be a Dad too,id feel like i could make up for alot of my lifes fuck ups if i could hopefully give my kids a better childhood and start in life than i did.Its all ive wanted tbh a fammily one day.I do worry tho that cos i had a shitty childhood ill maybe pass that down somehow... i mean my Dad use to think just because he didnt hit us all the time like his old man used to do he was giving us a better childhood I hope its possible to break that circle
And plus as a guy i dont have to worry about putting the wieght on... or having to pop the lil buggers out So its all good.And lol nice to see ya back around lilmiss,and congratulations on the news!Im sorry its not under the best circumstances for you but i really think when you have and love this baby you will be alot more content ya know... having him/her to look after might really give new meaning to ya life Im sure your gonna make a great mum.
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But what can I do....It's not the baby's fault. I'll love it and try to be the best mom I can be.
I hope its possible to break that circle
So its all good.And lol nice to see ya back around lilmiss,and congratulations on the news!Im sorry its not under the best circumstances for you but i really think when you have and love this baby you will be alot more content ya know... having him/her to look after might really give new meaning to ya life 
Im sure your gonna make a great mum.