Why Low self esteem?

Marie_knowsbestt · Newbie User Joined: Jun 27, 2008 Posts: 63

low self esteem comes around from having little to no knowledge of you wants, desires etc and therefore not pleasing the self. self esteem comes from:

setting and achieiving goals
knowing what one desires
knowing ones own morals and standing by them.
knowing own spirituality.
associating with people who comply with your own morals for example we can be very different people, but as a rule we dont abuse others when were together eg bully others.
we look after our bodies.
bulding a supportive network of family and friends, co-workers etc
positive relationships.

all these things sound alot. but really at the core of it. its about liking who you are as person, and then these things fall into place naturally.

faithnomore · Intermediate User Joined: Jun 20, 2008 Posts: 146

Kien · Posted: Thu Jul 24, 2008 4:41 pm Post subject:

A woman is no requirement to have decent self esteem. (-,-)

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Victor · Newbie User Joined: Jul 08, 2008 Posts: 31

friend807 · Newbie User Joined: Nov 09, 2007 Posts: 23

Thanx for all people comments, i realy enjoyed with these ideas
one of the most intersted ideas i got is the lack of love in childhhood and
the mistreatment from parents and overcontrol from them

also the fail in love,woman is essentail in our life but i dont think so that the lack of relationship with a woman is core of low self esteem.
the core is mislove with family and parent and friends in early childhood
we are bad luck Rolling Eyes

people LOL
Anyway thanx so much i realy enjoyed reading all comments

Jura · Newbie User Joined: Feb 29, 2008 Posts: 52

That's not true: I for one have very high self-esteem and that's not helping at all. SAD and low self-esteem are comorbid, but in no way does SAD require low self-esteem.

gascar · Newbie User Joined: Jul 08, 2008 Posts: 17

oh this is so wrong, high self esteem doesnt need to come from anything, only from the fact that you are alive.
this is so wrong thought!

didnt you ever see complete losers that actually doesnt have nothing to be proud of but have really high self esteem and even have a beautiful girl.

there are a lot of people that have the same thinking of you guys, that you need a great job, have a lot of money, have fancy clothes to feel good, and there are actually people who think that they need to wait to achieve this thing to have this! and only after that they could start dating girls otherwise they are nothing!

ITS TOTAL CRAP!!! you need to feel good about yourself and have the highest self esteem just from the REASON YOU ARE ALIVE!
im not saying it is easy to have core self esteem after you know this, but i think this should be the the goal of everyone here, to have core self esteem just because, and not for any other reason.

jura, i have a question, can you give me an example how it appears in your life? the high self esteem and the SA?

chrislookscute · Newbie User Joined: Jul 25, 2008 Posts: 7

the funny thing is is that i have very HIGH self esteem. i know i am very attractive and i dress to impress and i have a wonderful personality (so i'm told) but im TERRIFIED of social events/parties/clubs anything with people. i dont get it! i feel like everyone looks and laughs at me like im a clown. its so weird. i get hit on all the time but i just dont know what to say or how to talk to the person so i end up just smiling and rejecting so people think im stuck up

Argamemnon · Expert User Joined: Jan 15, 2008 Posts: 716

^^ perhaps your self esteem is not as high as you think it is.

dottie · Posted: Mon Jul 28, 2008 5:28 am Post subject:

i feel like my low self esteem is because of my social anxiety. i mean, i am afraid of people first. this makes me socially inefficient and powerless therefore it leaves me raped of self esteem.

ok i'm editing to add more...

for example, i can feel really good about myself. my confidence will be up because i have been doing well in school, i am having a great hair day, and i'm wearing my favorite jeans. then unexpectedly i will run into a social situation. i will just roll with it and try to socialize. at first they will be cool but after i start talking people will become stand-offish and give me a vibe like... i am weird. like i am coming on too strong or that i am trying too hard.

maybe that is in fact my problem, that i'm trying too hard. but i don't know any other way to socialize because it does not come naturally. hell, i don't know what to do with my eyes or hands. i just want people to know that i am friendly. and i do try. because otherwise i would be some jobless loser who never leaves the house, hiding in fetal position (which, btw, i don't feel THAT far off from).

but yeah, i can feel great about myself. i can be happy and content with my talents and interests until i approach a social situation. then it's all down the drain.

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