Looking to meet someone

esp · Posted: Sat May 28, 2005 12:35 am Post subject:

Hi, I know what you mean about the fear always being the same because all people pose some sort of threat. I'm dealing with the same thing. I think its more about something like overestimating the chances of something bad happening and then if something bad did happen exaggerating the consequences of that. Its like you have to stop giving over control to other people and take it back to yourself. You can't control other people but you can control your reaction to them. If you don't want to go to a psychologist then maybe you could try a self help book. I know you can't believe it but I have experienced that anxiety can get less. If you start facing your fears maybe you won't be so lonely anymore.
Emma

jss · Posted: Wed Oct 19, 2005 8:40 am Post subject:

I am only 21 years but I am approaching my 7th year of social phobia

I will not write a big boring story of mine Very Happy

but all I can say is that reading your post made tears come out of my eyes just because It made me remember my self

I live on the hope and this helps much

also every night while going to sleep and after I close my eyes I imagine my self having friends,love and good in social situations Very Happy

this really help me much although I do nothing and still have the same feeling and suffering but at least this extend my hope Very Happy

also try my friend to get a job far enough from social situations

currently I work programmer but through internet only to avoid social situations
this really helped me
before work I was too depressed and was thinking of death all the time but now I am in an acceptable good state and talking to you here Very Happy

also I think the best friends and gf to look for are social phobia sufferers just like you and me

they can understand you and feel with you and you too and I see this is an advantage even normal people may not have it in their relationships

I see there are some girls or women whatever Very Happy

from your country replied you

I really hope from my heart is to form successful relationship with some one here friends or gf whatever

I think all of us here who are in the same country in need to such relationships with each other

Good Luck for all of you and me too Very Happy