To cacophony:
I have not your problem. I feel sorry.
Do the problem arise only if the other one is looking straight into your eyes ?
Or can't you look anyone in the eyes even if he's looking elsewhere ?
I have that problem too. However I have tried several times to look people in the eyes but they usually turn away when we're talking or look somewhere else too. So then I just get confused and give up
These days I just look at a spot between there eyes or there ears . This way it may look like I'm looking in there eyes but actually I'm not.
Joined: Aug 06, 2005 Posts: 24 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Sun Aug 07, 2005 12:46 pm Post subject:
This is awful i know how you guys are feeling.
If we could wear sunglasses all the time it would be great, the confidence it gives me is amazing, i had a spell of wearing tinted glasses which i felt like i was hiding behind, which did give me added confidence.
But looking folk in the eyes is never something i like, i feel like they are seeing inside of me and seeing what a complete loser i am.
People that hold there gaze and never drop until you drop yours really freaks me out
Joined: Oct 16, 2004 Posts: 166 Location: Australia
Posted: Sun Aug 07, 2005 12:56 pm Post subject:
I_Hate_Life wrote:
People that hold there gaze and never drop until you drop yours really freaks me out
Oh well then you would hate me no seriously I wouldn't deliberately make someone feel uncomfortable by staring at someone who I knew had social anxiety or other problems.
However, the other day I did it to a male neighbour who I had a confrontation with and don't speak to anymore and he was out on his balcony and I looked up and he was staring down at me and I kept staring up at him and actually gave him a wink, and kept staring until he looked away...Oh it was fun for me, because the idiot doesn't like me and goes by what another person has said about me. I dislike people when they don't even get to know you and make up their minds that you are a terrible person. I don't think anyone can beat me in this game....the staring game...what a hoot it was for me Oh I am bad
Joined: Aug 04, 2005 Posts: 30 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Sun Aug 07, 2005 1:39 pm Post subject:
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This isn't me at all either... everyone used think i was the most awesome guy in the world and i was comfortable with anyone. This isn't just shyness.. this is hell.
caco i feel the same way 2, i used to be the funny 1 in the group. when im talking to people now i always look them in the eye but they can tell that i feel uncomftable, plus im only thinking what my facial expressions r like when im talking to them and not concentrating on what they are saying.
Joined: Jun 11, 2005 Posts: 116 Location: United Arab Emirates
Posted: Sun Aug 07, 2005 7:47 pm Post subject:
im suffering from tht eye contact too, i was told to look the person between the eyes .. i tried but forgot about it eventually ..
u gotta try it .. it mite help too ..
yeah i know what that feels like for sure, gave me alotta neck problems from being so tense, i remember thinking people were staring at me
the other day i stared a girl straight in the eyes and boldly said "i know God is real"
before i couldnt look anyone in the eyes
please look under my topic to see where i come from, i have the ultimate compassion for everyone suffering from this, i know how hard it is, and hopeless it feels
I've had this problem since elementary school. Because people used to comment about it. "Why don't you look at people when you talk to them?" (That's when they actually talked to me.) I thought it was weird at the time, but I didn't really take it seriously until years later.
Joined: Jan 30, 2005 Posts: 111 Location: United States of America
Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2005 2:25 am Post subject:
I used to have this bad to but realized one day its impossible for someone to look into your eyes and tell what kind of person you are unless there are a mind reader in all seriousness. When you actually do look in someones eyes do ever say this guys screwy hes weird probably not. people are so preoccupied when there talking half the time there thinking about something else. Just keep your head up and look them right in the eye and stop trying to figure out what there thinking.
When someone is telling me something, I just don't know where to look. I can't look them in the eyes. I'm afraid they will think I'm staring at them.
Also, I never know where to look when I pass someone on the street.
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no seriously I wouldn't deliberately make someone feel uncomfortable by staring at someone who I knew had social anxiety or other problems.
Oh I am bad
