Sexual Banter

blubs · Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2005 12:12 pm Post subject: Sexual Banter

Hiya

This morning I was taking my dog out for a walk...and I had to walk past a group of men, who were fishing. They started chatting to me..in a friendly way. Then one caught a tiny fish and shouted at me.....

"HEY LUV......IS IT TRUE SIZE DOESN'T MATTER??!!"

So...Does anyone else find this kind of thing mortifying, not funny??
I get so nervous if I see a group of men I Know I'll have to walk past.

Are men like this the world over, or is it particularly English??

Any Thoughts?

Blubs

fiona · Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2005 12:55 pm Post subject:

Well it depends who I am with but the women I work with are far worse than any men and have scared a couple of new women away! Surprised

It doesnt bother me at work but it would with men I dont know as some men can be creepy

blubs · Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2005 1:29 pm Post subject:

Hi Fiona

Thanks for your reply

I get just as nervous if it is women.....but I'm never in a place anymore where there is a big group of people and a lot of banter going on.
So I guess perhaps the difference is that men will just yell stuff at a woman on her own.

Any idea how to deal with it??

blubs

maggie · Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2005 2:07 pm Post subject:

hey blubs, i would find that annoying as well Rolling Eyes

...i can never think of a clever comeback in the moment...so i would probably just choose to ignore it...act like i didn't hear anything

Chilling__Echo · Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2005 3:57 pm Post subject:

hey blubs i know what you're talking about. one time i was walking to my room in a hotel and there were all these constuction workers on on the balcony and they were drinking (not yet drunk though) and laughing. they all get quiet when i walk up (of course my room had to be right next to them) and they were like "how you doing" polite and everything. then this one guy points to the other and said to me "don't worry, i'll keep this one away from ya" in a sexual way. i was also mortified and didn't say anything, just walked in my room.

however i've found myself sitting on buses or sitting in class perfering to sit next to a guy than a chick b/c overall, most guys don't do crap like that and of the two sexes, chicks tend to be more gossipy and pay more attention to people like what they're wearing, how they act, etc.

but yeah i don't know how to deal with it. i guess just threaten them with harrassment Wink

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fiona · Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2005 6:37 pm Post subject:

I get nervous because of my hearing problem it is a hundred times worse if anyone has to repeat themselves especially if it's rude!! But best thing is to just laugh then change the subject or if you can think of something funny give as good as you get Wink

black_mamba · Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2005 11:04 am Post subject:

GettingThere · Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2005 11:29 am Post subject:

There is a bit of a mars/venus thing operating through this thread.

Clearly we guys operate in a different manner - generally - to you girls. I have never quite understood why women get so uptight over suggestive comments from guys after they themselves speak to each other in lewd tones about guys and their experiences. I'm not knocking, just making an observation based on a lot of experience.

The mars/venus thing is real and I guess that women have certain behavioural stuff which guys detest too.

Having said that, I would add that for someone who suffers from SP it must be hard to deal with such attention from strangers. I extend my sympathy but I can't offer any advice in respect to handling it.

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black_mamba · Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2005 11:58 am Post subject:

Angie_05 · Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2005 1:36 pm Post subject:

The sexual comments from men don't always bother me. It really depends on the circumstances. Like if they are teenagers just trying to impress their friends by showing off their wonderful vocab skills, I just laugh at ignore it. I grew up with a group of 15 boys always hanging around my street and learned ignoring it is the best thing. When I tried to talk back, I got a lot more aggressive behavior.

If the men are grown, like 30+ years old, there is no excuse for it and it is scary. I'd ignore them too. I get this a lot when I am driving. It is really freaky when they pull up next to you at a stoplight and the window is down. I just turn up my music and act like they aren't worth my attention.