Joined: Oct 17, 2006 Posts: 205 Location: Massachusetts
Posted: Fri Mar 02, 2007 3:07 pm Post subject:
I've found it's not about being an asshole, it's about being difficult and/or indifferent, because women, unlike men, get hit on constantly and so look for what's hard to obtain. Whatever's right in your face and clingy is going to be very familiar and a big turn off, that's human nature and it actually happens in both genders. In addition, women still traditionally admire manly qualities like independence, confidence, and strength of character. Those things are nullified when you're being nice in the way men interpret the term. It basically goes back to that women want to feel like the man is doing the selecting, not her. She has to feel like her guy is a real catch, and if a man has options, she feels that and wants to win so that she knows she's genuinely better than the other girls. Conflict and the chase, that's the basis for attraction. Now if a guy pins all his hopes on a single woman and dotes on her like a lovestruck teenager, she's going to get spooked and run. I know it's kind of a degrading anology, but it's like being around cats. They'll rub their heads on your leg if you don't look at them, then the second you bend down to stroke them, they're out of there. The other thing too is that it comes down to holding off on the man's part. Getting to know a woman is important, it shows you have standards and don't jump on everything that moves. In that way, you simply have to test her in the way she's constantly testing you. There has to be a mutual "weeding out" process. Because only once you've gone the distance and she's emerged as the one who's right for you, will she feel content. That's why moving too quickly, buying her things etc doesn't work. You have to have both worked for it without trying to find the easy way there.
I've found it's not about being an asshole, it's about being difficult and/or indifferent, because women, unlike men, get hit on constantly and so look for what's hard to obtain.
That doesn't sound true. If you like each other why should you be difficult or even mind that they express it?
Last edited by jinxed on Sat Nov 01, 2008 10:03 pm; edited 4 times in total
I've found it's not about being an asshole, it's about being difficult and/or indifferent, because women, unlike men, get hit on constantly and so look for what's hard to obtain.
That doesn't sound true. If you like each other why should you be difficult or even mind that they express it?
Maybe because it brings a bit of a challenge and excitement to things? Gets the emotions going between them, and causes sexual attraction to happen more then it would with someone being subservient, acting a bit creepy, and happy to be used as a doormat.
Plus, after the sentence that you quoted from Kinetiks post, she gave a load of good reasons why girls normally find what 'nice' guys call assholes more attractive then 'nice' guys. Don't you agree with what Kinetik was saying then?
Joined: Oct 17, 2006 Posts: 205 Location: Massachusetts
Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2007 5:54 pm Post subject:
jinxed wrote:
That's a good point, but I meant that I definitely don't think you should act like you don't care, not talking about being creepy though.
All I'm talking about is acting over-eager initially. That's where a lot of the so-called 'nice guy' problems lie. If you don't make her prove herself, there's essentially no reward for either of you and the whole thing falls flat. Because the last thing a woman wants to feel is that you're only with her because she's willing to talk to you. That's what I meant when I mentioned holding off and testing each other.
For reasons unknown, women traditionally love struggle and conflict, with love emerging at the very end of the long and windy path. Don't believe me? Pick up one of those train-station romance novels.
Jpg made a good remark, that's what I was getting at basically. And I'm not preaching this stuff as universal truth, it's just what I've learnt so far personally. It may or may not coincide with how other people see it.
Joined: Dec 16, 2006 Posts: 118 Location: Bay Area, CALI
Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2007 7:12 pm Post subject:
I think the bitches who like assholes are the ones that are the conformist greedy self indulgers who for some reason need whatever "prestige" they can attain by dating an asshole.
I, myself, can be an asshole to people and a bit "macho" sometimes, but that's just how I was raised. However, with girls, I am never an asshole, unless I hate them for some reason. But with girls I am interested in, I would not be an asshole. I think dudes are assholes to girls so they can get pussy; they put on a sherraid because they think they hae to, and often times they do! So pretty much, these bitches like fake inbred vermin who are only good for sex, man, what a catch!
The same bitches who prefer to date an asshole, are the same bitches who marry for money and prestige and end up killing their husband when the life insurance becomes active. It's also the same bitch that would not go out with a guy because he has a shitty job or doesn't have any sort of prestigious title. These bitches' heart and soul are about as shallow as the actual water that is in the kiddie wading pools (in contrast to the urine, sweat, saliva, or anything else that's not water). Actually, they're more shallow, they are worse then a small puddle on hot summer day in Las Vegas!
To me, being a guy, I would not give a fucking shit what job or title a girl has, whether I was a cashier for McDonald's, or an executive at Google. I expect most women to be the same. Unfortunately, these are high (and appearantly delusional) expectations to have, and I should just give up right now.
In conclusion, fuck gold diggers, and fuck all you soul-less succubus bitches who just want our dick and money, go fornicate yourselves with an iron stick!
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Joined: Dec 16, 2006 Posts: 118 Location: Bay Area, CALI
Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2007 7:27 pm Post subject:
cutefluffykitten wrote:
nice post
If you're talking to me, thanks! If you're being sarcastic, then you can go perform auto-cunninglingus in front of a kindergarten chorus class in the multi-purpose room while you are mensturating .
Sorry about that, but I hold true to what I said, and it kinda frustrates me that I don't know if you're being serious or not.
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nice post