what partner you prefer SA or not SA

jauggy · Posted: Tue Jun 06, 2006 5:35 am Post subject:

If I had a choice between an SA girl and a non-SA girl I would choose whoever is hotter. if they both equally hot I would choose the non-SA girl. The reason is that my kids will be more equiped to survive and deal with life.

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boodizm · Posted: Tue Jun 06, 2006 7:46 am Post subject:

loneEAGLE · Posted: Mon Jun 12, 2006 11:07 pm Post subject:

misery loves company Crying or Very sad

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robbied84 · Newbie User Joined: Jul 06, 2006 Posts: 23 Location: uk

well my one and only boyfriend i loved and we split up last year, it wasn't working, i don't think he understood me, i don't think i gave him all that he wanted, and when he asked me to explain i just couldn't do it, how do you put it into words?! if i was more a "normal" person, maybe we'd have stayed together? so i voted "yes". i can dream haha. Very Happy

DYiNG-iNSiDE · Posted: Tue Oct 31, 2006 12:15 am Post subject:

both, id want him 2 have SA so he'll understand me and kno wat im goin thru but at the same time i want a guy that make me talk and bring me out plus it might get kinda boring if we were both just sitting there not talkin Wink

LittleMissMuffet · Posted: Tue Oct 31, 2006 2:32 am Post subject:

What I think is interesting is how more than a few people here have mentioned close bonds with higly sociable people.

I think Worrydoll said that one of her friends is highly sociable and a few people mentioned going out with someone highly sociable.

For me, it is more that both my siblings, especially my older one, are highly sociable -to the point of the polar opposite of me.

I think that this is particularly interesting.

Eventhough I've avoided social interaction to a fair degree because of social anxiety, when I'd begin at a new university/school I would often be 'adopted' by the popular crowd. ...I also had a bit of a romance with the loudest biggest show-off in the group. His personality was similar to my elder sister.

and when we were small, my mother said that my brother and sister got most of the attention, whislt me, who was quieter, tended to get the least attention. ...I think that this has sort of set-up the pattern for my thinking that I need to work hard to be valued and may also give me an inferiority complex about being introverted and not extroverted. so, this attitude that I need to compete and that only the strongest is successful sets up the similar attitude that without meeting such a standard then I would be a failure; and then 'introversion', shyness etc is seen as 'failing' in my mind. Also, I am simply a perfectionist and highly sensitive innately -otherwise, all people with such a family set-up would have social phobia.

I just thought that this was an interesting possible diagnosis that may give a look into what we think at the back of our minds.

LittleMissMuffet · Posted: Tue Oct 31, 2006 2:35 am Post subject:

Oh, and I wrote: 'I don't know'; because I'm not really sure.
I'd probably pick someone who was similar enough and yet different enough. So, somewhere close to an extreme and yet a better balance between the two than me.

maggie · Posted: Tue Oct 31, 2006 2:42 am Post subject:

doesn't matter to me...as long as i care for and respect that person..and they do the same for me...and that they just "get" me..if you know what i mean Wink

LittleMissMuffet · Posted: Tue Oct 31, 2006 3:26 am Post subject:

I actually read that in our society extroversion is prized over introversion. And that generally the extrovert is considered more attractive than the introvert.

I also read that for men there is more pressure to be extroverted and that men choose women based firstly upon looks and then upon extroversion over introversion.

It is kind of sad. If anything, whilst Jung stated that extroversion and introversion are equal, that despite that our society prefers the former, that in a sense introversion could actually be considered the superior function.

...when all is said and done though, it probably won't matter. Some people notice that later on the tide turns and the first come last and the last come first.

Lonelyheart · Newbie User Joined: Oct 08, 2006 Posts: 65

Without a doubt, I would prefer a girlfriend who has social anxiety or at least is shy. If I was to marry a lady who was outgoing, we would be miserable together. I do not like going to parties, concerts, dances, and most other social events. Extroverts receive energy by going out and being around people. Introvert, like myself, receive energy by being alone of in small groups. Are personalities would clash and I would feel as though I'm alway holding her back from doing what she wants.

I would rather be with someone who is shy and lonely; and wants to spend most of their free time with me. In addtion, a lady with social anxiety could understand what I'm going through.

I don't think oppossite attract when it comes to personality, especially if your looking for a soul mate.