Joined: Feb 05, 2006 Posts: 48 Location: Las Vegas
Posted: Thu Mar 23, 2006 2:08 am Post subject:
Good sense of humor~
Introvert obviously
A girl that likes to just hang out and have lazy days
As for physical preferences (I'm sure I'll come off as shallow here but oh well)
Dark Hair, Light Skin, Shorter then me (5'10") , Light Eyes. Nice boobs/butt , and i prefer cute over sexy
Joined: Apr 23, 2005 Posts: 982 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Thu Mar 23, 2006 4:32 pm Post subject:
jinxed wrote:
I'm not clear what you mean by mind games/manipulative though but it's ok.
Its a hard thing to explain... and i cant say i understand it that much myself .But ive seen it happen to someone close and its horrible.
This is a kinda minor example... but where one partner would flirt withsome one else to make there partner jelous just to get a reacton.Or when one person in a relationship knows the other person needs them more, they use that to there advantage in a bad way.I guess there kinda examples on a small scale.But its a lot more deep and complicated than that.
(edit oh and being a controll freak withsome is a good example)
Hopefully someone can explain it better than i can.
I don't think there was anything disturbing in what I wrote, if there was anything I apologize, I had no intention to be offensive, of course.
I meant that others could get very upset with comments that aren't positive or that they disagreed to especially if you generalized everyone such as what you wrote-
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It must be said at this point that males have an in-built biological drive for dreading unfaithfulness by their partner, while being happily unfaithful themselves. It is not only a matter of culture (obviously culture does matter as well, sweden is different from afghanistan), if you think of how evolution works and the way human beings reproduce it will seem rather self evident.
Note that I am NOT saying this is right or desiderable but I think that is the way things work.
but you don't have to apologize for your opinion.
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Joined: Jan 07, 2006 Posts: 12 Location: Connecticuit USA
Posted: Fri Mar 24, 2006 4:51 pm Post subject:
Hello Jinxed
You have to be with someone who you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational "skills" will be as important as any other. I also think there should be some element of suprise/mystery in a relationship.
Joined: Apr 23, 2005 Posts: 982 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Fri Mar 24, 2006 6:08 pm Post subject:
Going off the subject slightly... i think this could be a problem for people with sp or even just self esteem issues and that sort of thing maybe?.Not all of people with sp, but i would think some... with some of us being so lonley... or self doubting when we do get in a relationship,we come quite dependant on the other person for emotional support more so than a person without the self esteem, non assertiveness and insecure issues.And theres a danger of people using our insicurities against us.
Joined: Apr 25, 2005 Posts: 113 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Mon Jun 12, 2006 2:37 pm Post subject:
Sorry for the delay in replying. I forgot about this thread lol.
I did forget to mention the physical side of the story. I do need to be attracted to the person I'm going out with, otherwise there's just no chemistry and it would end up just a freindship. I've dated a few very good looking girls in the past and they never worked out. They were over confident and untrustworthy. That's not to say all very good looking girls are that way.
Going out with someone extremely good looking has it's own problems outside of trust and respect, such as the levelof attention, looks, smiles, whistles and comments from members of the oposite sex and how that can effect your self esteem when you're walking along beside them, wondering if they'd rather be with the other person. After a while it can start to knock your self esteem.
Now I'd be happy to be with someone with a beautiful personality, who I jus found quite attractive, rather than a stunner who's personality is quite rough around the edges.
Oh and lastly, I haven't been out with many shy girls. I guess by having sa I've always been to shy to apporach girls and so I'd always end up with the girls who approached me, and obviously they'd be quite confident to be doing the approaching. I'd ideally like to be with a girl who had sa My sa isn't too bad, and I am quite confident, especially now. I have a few things I try to avoid, such as busy shopping centres, work meetings, parties and weddings, but apart from those, most people would't have a clue I had sa.
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Joined: Apr 23, 2005 Posts: 982 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Mon Jun 12, 2006 9:21 pm Post subject:
Like fallenfeather said sorry for the late reply jinxed.To be completley honest i didnt understand some of your post,maybe cos i dont have the same experience or more probaly cos i need it dumbed down sometimes cos i find it hard to grasp things
I totaly know what you mean about stepping over the friendship/relationship barrier tho.It really is easier to step back when your just friends for some reason... its weird and hard to explain but you did a good job.Sometimes just simply going from friends to a relationship changes things and people so soo much.You meet someone you get along ace then you take it further and things just change so much.I guess its maybe because peoples expectations of you change and they view you different which i can understand to a certain point,and of course feelings are amplified when you let yourself become more closerer.but sometimes its like you find a totaly new side to the person and you think wheres the person i knew and liked gone.Dunno if that made much sence to your post like but anyway it sounds like youve been treated bad in relationships and had your feelings/trust abused from what you have wrote, sorry if that is the case.
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.But ive seen it happen to someone close and its horrible.
My sa isn't too bad, and I am quite confident, especially now. I have a few things I try to avoid, such as busy shopping centres, work meetings, parties and weddings, but apart from those, most people would't have a clue I had sa.
sorry if that is the case.
i really have all the qualities women look for butt my lifelong sa has made it hell to even speak to pretty girls..and it only gets worse 
