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Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 6:57 pm Post subject:
All my life ive been questioned about my sexuality, through school. college and now work, its not in any nasty way its just people being curious, it really puzzles me because i cant see what it is i do to give out these ideas or maybe its somthing i dont do, like talk about woman all day and how i would love to S@@G her and give her one and all that.
I even have a few profiles on line in the "straight" section but for some reason i always get gay guys sending me messages. I dont think i sound gay or act gay or even look gay and it does puzzle me as to why this happens.
I'm straight and I don't have anything against anyone who is different. Last year, I overheard these guys thinking that I was a lesbian..I guess because I never really talk to guys. I'm scared to talk to people with the same gender as me so how can I talk to the opposite? - Especially with SA and stuff. Another guy whom I talked to online and I knew in real life (we never ever talked in real life, idk why..maybe he didnt want to be seen talking to me? he would tell me that he really wants to be popular and stuff. but i only talked to him because he was nice to me sometimes and i never really get to talk to guys. he would be a jerk most of the time and make fun of me .... )- would call me a lesbian and how he heard from a girl that i was looking at girls in the locker room. I knew he was lying because I don't do that.
I'm "bisexual".... I guess. thought I was lesbian for a while recently. sometimes I think I'm just a lesbian who likes to be with certain men. for some, sexuality seems so easy to understand and define; but there are those of us out there who have so much trouble just applying a label and making it stick.
we need to avoid the labels and focus on what we are as the most relevant thing. we like what we like - and we love who we love. those preferences might even change over time, who knows. we should just do what feels right and let others call us what they will.
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I never talk about girls/dating and similar issues, but nobody ever thinks I'm gay, I guess anybody can easily see how uncomfortable with girls I am, which is proof I am not gay probably...
As for the topic of this discussion, I think it is quite normal for girls to feel attracted by older guys, they give a sense of security and they are stronger. Furthermore, you can often "trust" them more and they are not as stupid as most young guys (yes I put myself in the list) unfortunately are
The problem is how older than you you like them. 5 years is perfectly in the average, 10 is okay, 15 starts being a little too much but still acceptable, 20 is too much indeed.
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I never talk about girls/dating and similar issues, but nobody ever thinks I'm gay, I guess anybody can easily see how uncomfortable with girls I am, which is proof I am not gay probably...
As for the topic of this discussion, I think it is quite normal for girls to feel attracted by older guys, they give a sense of security and they are stronger. Furthermore, you can often "trust" them more and they are not as stupid as most young guys (yes I put myself in the list) unfortunately are
The problem is how older than you you like them. 5 years is perfectly in the average, 10 is okay, 15 starts being a little too much but still acceptable, 20 is too much indeed.
I don't agree by the way that you can necessarily trust older men more or that most young guys are 'stupid' or can't be as trusted, that would be a stereotype to me and isn't true. There are 2 arguments, one is that younger is more likely to cheat and older is settled and trustable vs. younger is actually innocent and trustable and older is more tricky and not innocent but I wouldn't choose to believe either one as that's a generalization and it can both be equally true and applied.
Last edited by jinxed on Sat Jun 14, 2008 11:58 am; edited 27 times in total
Recently some people have been questioning my sexuality due to the fact that I haven't seriously flirted with any girls in about 3 months. I'm straight, but I just don't know what's going on. I used to flirt non-stop, but I've slowed down almost to a complete stop.
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