1. I'm a girl
2. I would like to have 2 girls and 2 boys ... that way they should never feel alone and will find friends in they brothers. But i know it won't be like that ...will be a miracle to have just a little healthy boy .... who knows...
I wish i was a man
3. there is not a problem i'm just ....shy
_________________ Too many people are thinking of security instead of opportunity. They seem to be more afraid of life than death. (JAMES F. BYMES)
2. No, not if they were my own children. I know that sounds weird, but I don't want to curse anyone with my genes. Also, the world is overpopulated, and I don't want to add to that problem, because I fear that if/when the world ends it will end because there are too many people and too much waste. And that scares me!! I could possibly adopt, one day, because I really do love kids, and I feel more comfortable around them than people my own age. But with all this mental crap I go through, could I be a good mother all the time? I just don't know.
3. Mine wouldn't change, because the world won't change. But all this is so far away that I don't even know why I ever think about it.
I would absoloutely love to have a baby. I think about it all the time! I can't look at a baby without getting all misty eyed. I can't imagine my future without children in it at some point. However, I would have to be absoloutely stable (emotionally, financially, even geographically) before I even considered it. And I want to live in the countryside first!
I'd quite like to have a little girl, because I'd be able to identify more with her and her problems. But really I don't mind!
My answer would be exactly the same.
MrRightNow wrote:
Theres nothing more heartbreaking for a father to find out that hes gonna have a daughter
Joined: Jul 09, 2006 Posts: 22 Location: Bristol UK
Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 7:28 am Post subject:
i am female and no i dont really want children. i think i would still say the same if i didnt have sa. its going through all that pain and all that money ,i just dont see any good points on having kids. ive always said this- i would much rather have a dog .
but there is a little bit of me wondering if i did have them what would they look like /be like? i would like to make my parents grandparents. doesnt look like my brother will ever have kids,hes never had a proper gf.
but if i did have kids id prefer a girl.
i just feel my sa would get in the way. i could never stand up to a moody toddler!
Joined: May 04, 2006 Posts: 248 Location: New Jersey
Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2006 1:23 pm Post subject: Re: I want kids
feeltherage wrote:
I feel I must have kids one day, its the whole reason I or any other person exists, to duplicate your genes.
I completely disagree with that If it is the whole reason we exist how come some people physically CAN'T have children, some men and some women. Also what about women who have cancer or other illnesses and after can't have children? does that mean they have no reason to exist after that.
I have no desire to have a child, I want to want it... and I have my moments and it's sad I don't have that motherly instinct. I mean I think i'm a really nice, compassionate person when it comes down to it... especially with animals. I think it's because i'm not sure how to act around children, I relate that to my own childhood. Everyone i've seen about my illnesses have said it's related to childhood abuse. Of course if I ever did have a child i'd never repeat the mistakes or evilness my parents did.
Saying that, my husband doesn't want children either and altho his parents divorced he had a pretty good childhood. We have a stable marriage, financially and otherwise. I came from another country for him so the dedication is there but we just don't want that.
Does that mean we have no reason to exist?LOL. Because we have a lot more to offer than offspring!
I want four children, maybe 2 girls and 2 boys? Idk. I don't care, only if one of them is a girl. With my SA, I don't know if I would be able to get a husband in the first place. But if I didn't have SA, I would think I could make it happen.
Joined: Jul 14, 2006 Posts: 633 Location: Australia
Posted: Thu Aug 03, 2006 3:34 am Post subject:
I'm a female
No, I don't want children, and I will never change my mind, I couldn't pass on my crap genes and make someone else as miserable as me, What if they looked and acted like me, their whole life would be ruined
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I could possibly adopt, one day, because I really do love kids, and I feel more comfortable around them than people my own age. But with all this mental crap I go through, could I be a good mother all the time? I just don't know.
