Originally Posted by cobalt_bluester
Hi folks. does anyone else find that they can sometimes get really angry when they feel that people are staring at them?
This afternoon, I went to a cafe with my folks and noticed this youngish girl staring at me from a distance. I found it a bit intimidating and very annoying as she wouldn't look away and she looked so deadpan too, and never smiled or anything. She had obviously picked up on the fact that I had noticed her staring at me but she refused to look away!!! So, I ended up losing my cool and spoke loudly to her across the room to her to ask what she was looking at. I then asked her if she wanted a photo. She never responded and ending up backing down by looking away. Hasn't she got anything better to do!?!
I embarassed my parents a bit and I was really sorry about that, but I couldn't help myself as it is all a part of my illness you see losing my cool like that. This is not the first time this has happened, but people should learn to mind there own business. It shouldn't bother me that people stare but I find it a bit threatening and I get so angry about it sometimes - hence the outbursts!! I have problem making good eye contact too so perhaps that could be all part of it I don't know, but it's all very upsetting and getting me down. I would be interested to hear from anyone who has similar problems, or someone who could offer me some good advice as to how to better cope with this type of thing.
- You hate it when people look at you.
- Staring at you makes you angry.
- You hate eye contact.
Are all valid symptoms, but you really need to start the habit of asking yourself WHY you have them. It's a painful process. I can tell by the rhythm of your post alone. You were bouncing from exclamations to vague analysis to anger and then back to exclamations. That's your body trying to avoid the question. It tends to happen because we either 1) Don't want to think about our pain. 2) Know exactly what's wrong but think it's an unfixable problem.
I know it all too well. I must have written about 100 pages of notepad describing my pain in the hopes that it would help, but most of it was random musings focusing on random observations. It was more of an "analgesic" than curative.
So yea, I would really recommend just pinning yourself to a seat and confronting yourself. Don't let yourself hide anymore. It never works.