Prom.

Jotun

Member
Well my Senior prom is coming up soon (may the 17th to be precise) and I've been looking for a date for the past few weeks. I've been rejected by about 4 girls now. To be honest I thought it would crush me. I've never been on a date before and I'm asking someone to go to prom lol. But you know, I felt fine about it. There was a little twinge fear and hurt afterwards but I feel fine. So now I have consigned myself to going with friends. But then I realized that I have no friends. And now I don't know what the fuck to do. Should I try to find a group of people to go with or should I just stay at home. I probably regret not going and at the same time I I don't know if I would be okay enough to go by my self.
 

4seasons

Well-known member
You have SA and you asked 4 girls on a date?

I didn't go to mine and I don't regret it. High school is a joke, when you're done that life gets left behind.
 

Jotun

Member
Well I asked two in person. I had to get a proxy for the other two. I didn't know if the words would come out right. I know most of the things that happen in High school are just bullshit. But I can't say that I have ever lived my life. I just need some kind of jumping point.
 
I didn't go to prom, and I don't regret it. Trust me: three months after you're out of high school, it's ancient history and doesn't matter one bit.
 

ljwwriter

Well-known member
I didn't go to my prom or my graduation. In some ways I regret both decisions. But then, I knew who I was as a person at that time in my life and the prom was not for someone like me. Neither was a graduation ceremony, quite frankly. Still, I cannot deny feeling like I've missed out on some rather significant, milestone experiences. And that I've stripped my family of the opportunity to watch me go through those experiences, which is perhaps even worse.

But I don't know. I had friends who went to the prom but they didn't seem all that excited about it afterwards. In fact I heard some rather unpleasant stories, which I was glad I wasn't in the midst of. Also, I didn't want to go to the prom stag and that was surely my only option for reasons beyond the average dateless guy. So I think I sat at home watching TV that night and both rejoicing in and dreading the impending end of high school.

20 years from now if I'm still alive for some god-forsaken reason I highly doubt I'll care about whether or not I attended my prom. By that time I'll be far too busy regretting that I've yet to attend my own wedding or the birth of my first child or anything else that we people supposedly look forward to in this life full of milestones.
 

megalon

Well-known member
I think that if it's so important to you that you are getting stressed out about it, then you will probably regret it if don't go. I didn't go to mine, mostly because of my SA, but also because I hate any occasion where you have to get dressed up. Who decided that we should wear the most uncomfortable clothes for the most uncomfortable situations? What is the purpose of a tie? Maybe it had some purpose back when it was invented but now it's just useless. We have to wear a tie 'cause that's tradition. Screw tradition. That's just a bunch of superficial bs. Sorry for the rant. Just my $0.02
 

Great_Beyond

Active member
Well you can take me to prom :D . I'm just kidding. I decided this year that I was only going if I had a date, and Suprise. Suprise. I don't. So I'm not going.
 

Zettie

Member
Of course no one asked me out to Prom because I'm a loner and nobody knows me. But I still went with my friends (girls) but I couldn't completely loosen up and have fun. I was always worried that someone was watching me so I didn't dance at all. It's torture watching everyone dancing on the dance floor and I wished I could be like them and not care what people thought... :cry:
 

Moonie

Well-known member
I didn't go to prom- and I don't regret it one bit. But, I was never into HS functions. I do have some HS regrets - but prom is definitely not one of them.

I do feel bad, though. One person asked me to prom- not directly. Someone asked for him, and I said I was not going. If I could turn back time, I'd have gone just for him :( So he had a date. But, I would have been so freaking tense the whole time.

If you could find any nice people to hang out with- I'd try going since it is something that interests you. But if you have the courage to go alone then also go for it.
 

hapt

Member
*sigh* well for me, I did go for my "prom". Well it doesnt really work out like a US prom I guess, as its just a dance party for all, and being without a date is normal... but again I only stayed for 10 minutes before I felt silly, as all were dancing, and I was just sitting, and sipping soda :roll:

I skipped my university graduation entirely... didnt want another embarrasing scene.

I finished school in 1999. That day still pops up in my head every now and then. Anyway, I dont know why I'm posting this, take care all.
 

Jay-T

Member
never went. wasn't really anybody at the time that I even felt comfortable asking. I told anybody who asked that I couldn't afford it, most of them bought it - I was a lower middle class kid in a rich private school. Never regretted it, no one cares about high school anymore anyway.
 

PhantomPod

Well-known member
I didn't go to my prom. If someone would have asked me, I probably would have gone, but no one did and I didn't have a group of friends in school, so I really had no one to go with, so I just stayed home. I don't really regret it.
 

Sebr3

Active member
Jotun said:
Well my Senior prom is coming up soon (may the 17th to be precise) and I've been looking for a date for the past few weeks. I've been rejected by about 4 girls now. To be honest I thought it would crush me. I've never been on a date before and I'm asking someone to go to prom lol. But you know, I felt fine about it. There was a little twinge fear and hurt afterwards but I feel fine. So now I have consigned myself to going with friends. But then I realized that I have no friends. And now I don't know what the fuck to do. Should I try to find a group of people to go with or should I just stay at home. I probably regret not going and at the same time I I don't know if I would be okay enough to go by my self.

Firstly, I admire you for having the guts to ask 4 girls out to your prom (we call them High School formals here in Australia), and I am sorry to hear that they all turned you down. I know exactly how you feel, I asked a few girls out when I was in high school, and I too got rejected. It's not a nice feeling.

I never went to my high school formal as I did not go to year 12 (I am 39 now). What can I say??, if you are going to be bored and not have a good time, then there's probably little point in you in attending. Why waste a lot of money hiring formal clothing, when you could be doing something you do actually enjoy.

Anyway, it's up to you, and I hope you make the right choice.
 
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