question to all

Hi everyone,

Recently. I was in relationship with a lady, who is married. Of course its a long distance relationship. She said that she loves me and still kept having sex with her husband. I know it should be considered normal or maybe not. I am confused. but if she says that she loves me then why. You know what I mean. I have no idea what to do. I just feel so pointless to live.
I know she makes me feel good, real good. She even came to meet me. But, the question is, how to let the past go and dont think about it. I keep getting nightmares about past that she had. I kind of dont trust her on these things. What should I do? I have no idea. I know its crazy. but, I would really appreciate some input on this. I have OCD, so I cant stop to think about these things. depression was in control but now again I feel its ganna hit big.

She said she "loved" you to keep you around. Trust your gut. Let her go. I doubt she'll leave her husband. Don't get so torn over a woman (especially this one !) They will come and go. Hopefully the next one you meet is more decent. Give it some time.

Forget about her. Move on with your life. The sooner the better. You will feel better in the long run.

Either she loves you or she keeps having sex with her husband. It's a matter of saying to her "listen, I know you're married and all, but you've got a decision to make. Either you divorce him to be with me, or stay with him and we're done". It's about 90% more likely that she'll stay with him, since they're married and all. However, she did cheat, even if emotionally, so who knows.

Either way, don't allow yourself to be in limbo like that. It's either one thing or the other, and there's nothing in between. Also, why did you say it was pointless to live? That had nothing to do with the rest of your post.

Thanks everyone. I am trying to get back to life. Trying to switch my job. She left me and it was for good. I am still depressed and trying to heal. anxiety still keeps bothering me. but atleast I dont have someone to make me feel real worse. I am living my life day by day. Hope it will get better.
thanks everyone for the remarks.

I had a similar situation a few years ago. It eventually gets better and you realize it was actually for the best that things didn't go the way you wanted.