Higolo

To the person who'd rather stay at home than go out and be 'exposed'... Self-fulfilling prophecy comes to mind, mate.

The longer you try to hide from the anxiety provoking situation, the worse it'll be when you face it.

So... GO OUT AND FIGHT, Mo' fo! :-D

Darkdriver

I also feel the same. I never find exactly the moment to start speaking, I begin to think about it, again and again, and it becomes more difficult every time.

Lone-Wolf

whenever I talk ppl say huh or speak up....so i just don't talk :/

Noca

I hate groups with a passion!

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Emmmmy

[QUOTE=lurknomore;166983]I can never seem to find a way to jump into group conversations- I keep waiting for a time when I won't be "interrupting" someone else, and the requisite pause never happens, or if it does, what I have to say is no longer relevant to the conversation. QUOTE]

This sums it up so well!
Typically, I make a couple of attempts early on to get a foothold in the conversation, than eventually just zone out & keep quiet!

I think it's just low dominance behaviour. Alot of the time I think most of us are just 'being polite' and letting others finish having their say. But it probably just comes across as not having anything to say.

Queen_Of_Pain

[quote=Emmmmy;184406]I can relate to this too. Like you're waiting for the right time to say something, and the right time comes and goes and you feel frustrated with yourself but really it was not your falt but some other loudmouth who couldn't keep his or her mouth zipped shut.

I especially hate it when I finally make a valid point and the 'information' I put into the conversation gets added onto someone elses opinion which they are then later congratulated on. It's just so out of order how people shout others down before they've even had the chance to speak. *jumpes up and down in frustration*

FarmerJohn

I definitely love talking to one person one on one rather having to talk to everyone in a group. I take much pride in intently listening to what that person, whoever that may be, is talking about. But when it comes to group, I think I don't really like talking that much. I just listen and blurt out a one liner or two a couple of times.

BeauZa

Curls: Your case is quite similar to mine. I can handle a one-on-one conversation, but when there is three or more people in the group, the other 2+ people just start talking and I just end up sitting there being the quiet one.

Do you have Aspergers Syndrome or High-Functioning Autism? The symptoms sound familiar...

ffeev223234

i see everyone here and i have dealt with this
i think we should provide some advice on how to improve from these situations.

for example,
remove all the doubt you have about fitting in a group and agree to what most of the group likes and dislikes or try to talk like them(not to the point you r mimicking them but use vocabularies that they would use base on what you hear from them)

Fliken

I actually find 1-1 conversation to be tougher most of the times due to the fact that it feels like it is up to me to keep the conversation going and 100 % of the attention is directed towards me at all time even if im not speaking.

When I am in a group of several people i quite enjoy being able to sit back and relax and let the others take care of the conversation (although if I find i must contribute to something or that I have a point to make it is ofcourse nearly impossible to say something unless i've been a part of the conversation from the whole beginning.