RE Guys getting a GF

quietlyobserving

quietlyobserving

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I just wanted to let you all know, from a girl, that i actually love shy guys, guys that have an interesting personality, especially if they seem 'different', and i know usually people say that looks are everything but for me they are not. There is hope for you yet! There are plenty of girls out there that will love you for just being you. You might have to change where you look though. And you may have to change your 'standards' Girls too have a difficult time finding a BF because alot of guys - even the "not so good looking" have high expectations on looks.

I would give any one of you guys a fair go, regardless of looks. There ARE more girls like me out there.


(btw, im engaged to an absolute shy childish dork! but i love him, and have 2kids with him)
 
SilentType

SilentType

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Thanks a lot for that. As a guy, it's good to know that there's at least one lucky shy guy with someone to wake up beside every morning. Gives me a little hope that maybe one day I'll find one of you girls who likes the "different," panic disorder-stricken dude that I am.

Peace
 
Kien

Kien

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I believe these number of girls of this type in each country can be counted on 1 hand.
 
Ursula

Ursula

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I'm female (as you may have guessed from my username) and I totally agree with quietly observing on this one. My boyfriend is an 'extreme social phobic' just like me and he's my ideal person- I've never been that keen on outgoing alpha males and actually find shy men more appealing. I've noticed quite a few women on this site saying the same thing so I think there's definitely hope for all you shy and lonely guys. As q.o. says though you may be looking in the wrong places- a few of you only seem interested in 'hot chicks' which might limit your chances a bit.
 
im_no_superman

im_no_superman

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i have a girlfriend, we been going out for three weeks now and i am different from all her ex boyfriends because they are all out going and very loud people, she too is a very loud person so i am very different to what she is used to but she says she is really happy and doesn't mind having to get used to it.
 
Moonie

Moonie

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All of my BFs have been outgoing and social. They didn't work out. I need to find me one of these quiet guys.
 
shield

shield

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I'd like to go out with a girl who has sp I think they would understand me much better than the average girl.
 
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w*n*c*a*m

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hey! I love shy guys! When I was a freshman in college, I actually had a shy guy classmate. He is so shy that every break, he just eats alone or sleeps in the classroom, and no one even cared! But me, because I'm also a shy girl (but not that extreme to isolate myself), I understand him. So even if I was shy in the first place to approach him... I just did! It was actually funny! LOL... what I did is when he tried to sleep ... I poke him and say "You are forbidden to sleep!" LOL... and so I did that everytime I had the chance to come near him... and although we didn't became real friends... i was just so glad when it came to a point that he was now the one who approaches me to borrow something or for whatever reason!... and when I poke him, he now responds "I'm sleepy!" In a joking way!"

PS but I transferred to another university and changed course so I just had him for one year...
 
Ursula

Ursula

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Hi Daytripper. In answer to your question, we met through a personal ad in a music magazine in the days before there was much of an internet. I knew I'd never meet anyone in the conventional way because I'm too shy to approach men and the sort of guy I'd have liked would be too shy to approach me. I did go out with a couple of more outgoing blokes when I was young(ages ago!- I am in my 30s) but I never felt comfortable with them and felt like I was constantly trying to conceal my real personality. I always wanted a relationship with someone I could 'be myself' with and I found my boyfriend so much more interesting and fun than anyone else I'd met. I'm not sure if either of us are capable of being 'fun' with anyone else but we have a really good time together.

So what I'm trying to say is that it's just a case of finding the right person although I know it's a matter of luck to some extent. Quite a few people on this site seem to have found their partners on the internet so maybe that's the best thing to try?
 
TAMPA-BAY

TAMPA-BAY

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Thanks

Wow thanks to all the girls that responded for the vote of confidence. Lots of guys feel the same way. Not all guys want the flashy model type either.

People that date shy people dont make headlines so they go unnotice.
 
Kien

Kien

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I hate pretty girls, they are so hard to resist looking at. (<,<) Yesterday I were at a bus station and it was all filled with sugar cubes it was hard to find any direction to look at where you didn't see one. (-,-)
 
coriander1992

coriander1992

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I feel exactly the same as you, I tend to like the shy, more reserved guys...I would likely never go for somebody extremely good looking or outgoing!

So all of you guys on this forum who keep moaning about how there's no hope for you because girls only go for the confident outgoing guys...you're wrong, fact! :lol:
 
Kien

Kien

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coriander1992 said:
I feel exactly the same as you, I tend to like the shy, more reserved guys...I would likely never go for somebody extremely good looking or outgoing!

So all of you guys on this forum who keep moaning about how there's no hope for you because girls only go for the confident outgoing guys...you're wrong, fact! :lol:
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That might be true, you women who like shy guys does not grow on trees. :p

You feel exactly like me? (O,o)
 
coriander1992

coriander1992

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Kien said:
coriander1992 said:
I feel exactly the same as you, I tend to like the shy, more reserved guys...I would likely never go for somebody extremely good looking or outgoing!

So all of you guys on this forum who keep moaning about how there's no hope for you because girls only go for the confident outgoing guys...you're wrong, fact! :lol:
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That might be true, you women who like shy guys does not grow on trees. :p

You feel exactly like me? (O,o)
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No, I feel exactly the same as the thread starter, quietlyobserving :p

You're right, they don't grow on trees so you must go and look for them!
 
moodygoo

moodygoo

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Kien said:
I believe these number of girls of this type in each country can be counted on 1 hand.
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well theres enough to count on 1 hand in just this thread, including me.

Ursula said:
Quite a few people on this site seem to have found their partners on the internet so maybe that's the best thing to try?
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Thats how I found my bf :oops: not that I was really looking for 1 that way.
It's not at all cool and the distance sucks but ah well.
So all you guys complaining that you can't find a girl who doesn't want a huge ego theres a whole forum full of them here. Maybe send someone you think you'll get on with a pm? :lol:
 
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