relationship OCD

I recently stopped having Violent thoughts, But i have a new one... Thoughts about breaking up with my girlfriend. I love my girlfriend and i don't want to break up with her. I love her to death, i want to get married and have children with her. But Occasionally my mind will says Break it off!!!

does anybody else have this?

Yes I get that Too! I'll fear that i'll lose interest, or that I should break up, or that i'll get bored etc. and it sucks cause I know he is the one!

what do you typically do when you get those thoughts?

its difficult, i love her, and today we were out (she is chinese from shanghai) i can understand mandarin chinese, But not shanghainese. and we went to her family but i didn't understnad and i felt left out, and the whole time away from home i felt like i should break up, questioning if i love or not. but now i am back home, and i know i love her, and i don't want to break up. it sucks. makes me feel depressed, which is strange because i am not a depressive person....::

Textbook symptom of OCD/general anxiety disorder.

If you have OCD/general anxiety, your mind will always be trying to make you worry about something.

You have to learn to recognise them for what they are, that being, just thoughts that come about from a mental disorder, and are not rational to how you really feel about the situation.

Once you learn to ignore these thoughts, your anxiety levels will decrease and you'll get less and less of them.

i had the same thoughts with my ex girlfriend... we didnt break it off because of the thoughts though, we just went to other colleges and we decided it would be easier for both of us to have seperate lives. however, everytime i meet a new girl and we get close, i have extreme anxiety attacks. this weekend i was with this girl, it was our second weekend hanging out, and we just connected, and the chemistry was great. but, i just feel so incompetent or that i dont deserve her because i have ocd, or that the only reason she likes me is because i sometimes take medication which may change my personality to make me look more attractive... my mind spins constantly all day, and i sometimes feel its not even worth the trouble, and i should just stay out of relationships... and that really depresses me... this past sunday i had such a bad anxiety attack that i almost passed out from hyperventilation, i was so light headed... without ocd im confident, a great leader and am very poise, but with it, i feel so incompetent
i wish i could just have a peace of mind with someone i enjoy being around, instead of constantly feeling as if i dont deserve to be around her

i just told my girlfriend about my problems, and crie dlike a little child.
I also am the leader when i dont have OCD. when i have OCD attacks i feel like a child, I need help. I told my girlfriend i love her. and if i ever say anything bad to her like lets break up, I don't mean it. and i want her to ignore anything i may or may not say to her about the subject. I just I don't know how to say it... protected myself in the situation because incase i do say anything bad or attempt to break up i odn't mean it.

i love her with all my heart.

But how do or did you deal with this? i don't want to do cognitive for this, Rehabilitation? i don't want to test this, and i don't want to test violent thoughts (which seem to be gone)



"Julia if you read this, I love you so much. Never listen to anything i say. I love you i will always love you and i want to grow old and have a family with you!"

Thanks

i was reading up on some articles and studies done about ocd and i came across one that said that people with ocd tend to have higher IQ's than the general population because of the type of mental routine and brain activity we constantly experience... were never shut down... which is why when were ocd free we tend to be great at what we do in our arena of life... just like howard hughes, michelangelo, charles darwin, nikola tesla, martin luther, and st. ignatius de loyola who were all thought to have suffered from ocd...

anyways... just be honest with your girlfriend, and if she knows how much you care about her im sure you guys will work through any tough obstacles you'll encounter... its not often someone finds a relationship like that