Shy Around Children?

Kanon

Kanon

Well-known member
Does anyone else have this problem?

I am always afraid that a child will point out one of my insecurities to the known public. One time, a mother (whom I thought was attractive, which already made me very shy) came into my job with her son, and after I had started to build a comfort zone and felt natural conversing with her, her son pointed at my face and asked, "Did someone draw on your face with a marker?" He was pointing at my acne. His mother apologized all over the place, but after that, a thick barrier of uneasiness separated us, and the conversation died like a minute after.
 
celestialrecluse

celestialrecluse

Well-known member
children are children, there really is no need to feel uneasy around them, the great thing about them is they speak their mind, whether you want to hear it or not, they don't mean any harm by it, they just don't know any better, words are just words to them and they haven't yet grasped that words do hurt! (well just really depends on how old this kid was) the probable reason the mother backed away from the conversation was just embarrasment, i can bet you that that kid got an ear full once they left your workplace! lols!
 
Kanon

Kanon

Well-known member
You make perfect sense, but that is where I am confused on how to respond to that. Lol

As they say, "the truth hurts". haha.
Even if I was a super confident person, I don't think I would tell the kid off or anything. I would still probably be as confused as I am now.
Its almost like one can only say, "Oh.. you caught me..." when that happens. Just would rather be prepared in case it happens again.
 
Edith

Edith

Well-known member
I have always been really, REALLY weirded out by kids... being around them freaked me out becasue I feel like they can see right through you. I was under the impression that you "can't fake it with kids".

That's part of the reason that I decided to be an english teacher for a year - you know, try to punch your fears in the face... that kind of thing :roll:

At first I thought, "Oh dear god what have I done!!?? I don't knwo what to do with these little things!!" and when my boss came in to watch my class during the first week she left halfway through and said, "You seem nervous... I'll come back in a few weeks" which was good becuase I'm actually really good with kids now.

They are easy in that even though you can't fake it with kids, there is no reason to fake it with kids... even if they point it all out to you, there is nothing hurtful after a while because it genuinly isn't meant to hurt and it sincerly doesn't matter to them - there is something so freeing in that knowledge.

I get called "Fat teacher" and they ask me if I'm pregnant all the time (I'm only 20 lbs overweight!) but it rolls off your back. Hang around kids more and it'll come... I was skeptical, but it happened for me.
 
celestialrecluse

celestialrecluse

Well-known member
lols! you just need to be aware that kids will say anything, they dont think before they open there mouths, you probably shouldnt go around telling someones child off, that could probably get you into trouble, just laugh it off, they are just being inquisitive they really dont mean any harm! like edith said hang around children more, you will find that conversations with them is so easy, trust me you never get bored! lols!
 
Psychedelicious

Psychedelicious

1
I hate children. I hate it when they try to talk to me or something, I just don't want to get involved with them. I have to try real hard to fake something which makes it all super awkward.
 
recluse

recluse

Well-known member
I am terrified of kids. Whenever i am walking and there's kids around i am scared that i'm going to accidently trample on them and hurt them o'r something, i also have no clue how to interact with kids. I hate it when a kid of a total stranger says hello and i'm afraid that if i be friendly i'll get accused of being a paedophille, but if i ignore them i feel cold and dry. There's this obsession i have that i might get accused of being a paedophile.
 
Digitaldreams

Digitaldreams

Active member
recluse said:
I am terrified of kids. Whenever i am walking and there's kids around i am scared that i'm going to accidently trample on them and hurt them o'r something, i also have no clue how to interact with kids. I hate it when a kid of a total stranger says hello and i'm afraid that if i be friendly i'll get accused of being a paedophille, but if i ignore them i feel cold and dry. There's this obsession i have that i might get accused of being a paedophile.
Click to expand...

Yeah,that can be rough. Apparently,in the USA,for well over a decade teachers and others have felt unable to hug kids anymore,for fear they will be accused of pedophilia. :?

I like really little kids and babies. One of the great things about them is that they will say "hi" to strangers and smile at you. It's cute. :D
 
Siren

Siren

Well-known member
Wow, I love kids! I'm really looking forward to having a few of my own someday.
Kids are always so enthusastic about everything you want to do, and they just get so attached to you and look up to you so much.
I will admit that when I'm around a new child for the first time I am uncomfortable because, yes, I am afraid the kid is going to reject me, which has happened before. But for the most part, all my experiences with kids are great. :)
 
Richey

Richey

Well-known member
I'm actually the opposite with kids, i like how care free they are, they dont know what "prejudice" or "fear" is yet ..until they reach high school ..

my little cousins chase me around for attention are always happy and want to be your friend...

its adults i'm afraid of
 
Kanon

Kanon

Well-known member
Richey said:
I'm actually the opposite with kids, i like how care free they are, they dont know what "prejudice" or "fear" is yet ..until they reach high school ..

my little cousins chase me around for attention are always happy and want to be your friend...

its adults i'm afraid of
Click to expand...

Yeah that is true. Although kids pick up from their parents too, so it isn't very rare to see a kid that has an opinion of someone or something, or is afraid of certain things, etc.
When I think about it, I am kind of afraid to raise a child of my own because I would want to daugther or son to be outgoing...
 
yeksik

yeksik

Member
im fine when im alone with kids but for some reason when the parents are around im embarrassed to talk to them cause i dont want to look stupid infront of their parents
 
autumn_82

autumn_82

Well-known member
Haha yeah I feel the same way as Yeksik. I'm okay with kids, but the parents intimidate me. The thing is I'm never sure how to react when they're being naughty. You know the ones who like to get a rise out of you.
 
LeeAnne

LeeAnne

Active member
I find kids are better at sensing things than adults, and have little filter for censoring themselves and what they think.

I think to any social phobe that can be daunting- the sudden pertinent questions and brutal honesty.

:lol:
 
Delric

Delric

Member
Kids are awesome (especially when they're younger). Usually cheerful with a positive outlook on life and they don't judge people quite so readily as adults do. Just generally fun.

It's difficult not to feel cheerful when there are kids around, however I tend to ignore them and look aloof, in case fondness for kids gets mistaken for paedophilia. There's far too much paranoia about that kind of thing in today's society but that's just how it goes.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top