Shy girls - i need your opinions please

shybhoy

shybhoy

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Hi

I like this shy girl and she likes me we have been talking online for a year now and arragned to meet up but she bottled out because she was so nervous, she wants us to cool down a little and i can understand that. But what i need to know from all you lovely shy girls is....is it normal for a shy girl to try and avoid you if they like you ?? how do you act when you really like a guy ?

opinions please

thank you :)
 
Moonchild

Moonchild

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It is absolutely normal shyboy. Shy girls find it quite difficult to be on a date. Well, i do at least. Don't worry, I don't think she is avoiding you because she doesn't like you but because of her shyness. After all, if she didn't like you, would you be talking for an entire year? Don't worry my friend, she should probably need some time that's all. We need to take things slowly, us, the shy girls! hehe. Good luck :)
 
shybhoy

shybhoy

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thank you moonchild for your opinion....i hope you are right...i know she has very low self esteem and things too also she was very very hurt in the past by a man and that only makes things worse in a way you know as well as her shyness...but i do understand her point of view and her situation...i just don't want us to spoil what i think could be a good thing.
 
Moonchild

Moonchild

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I am so sorry she's been hurt in the past. In that case you should try to show her that she can trust you. To make her feel she can rely on you. But she probably already knows that, you look like you really care for her and i'm sure she understands that. Be patient my friend and everything will be fine. I really wish you all the best.
 
shygirly

shygirly

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Thats the first and number one sign I that I'm attracted to someone,I treat them like cancer,lol!
 
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AlleyCat

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It can be very difficult to start trusting someone after being hurt by another so badly. I've been through that and you end up building a wall around yourself so no one can get in to hurt you like that ever again. The only problem is no one can get in to love you that way. You sound like a great guy, and I'm sure she realizes that and just wants to take things slow for the time being. I hope everything works out for the both of you!
 
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butterflydreams

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I say it's "normal" :) I can just assume that she's nervous about what's to come and that can be understandable. :) And I wouldn't think it's because she is trying to call it off, just not ready yet.
How do I act when I really like a guy? lol... I just try to demolish all emotions I have for that particular guy. I think you have to be really brave to pursue someone you're fond of and me? I can't say I'm weak-at-heart, but hesitant to take that risk. I'm afraid I would become too clingy, needy, dependent on that person if all goes well with the two of us. I just want to be my one true love, lol. Silly, aint it? :)
Well, I hope all goes well with the two of you!!!
 
shybhoy

shybhoy

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thank you everyone who posted....all truly insightful even though i'm shy myself and i do understand everyones shyness is different....i just hope you are all right because i have made myself very vulnerable....i've been hurt before..and i understand its just part of life but i dunno it just feels different this time i think the hurt would be greater because we have similar personalities and its as if i have found someone who gets me and i get her so the risk of losing something like that is tremendously scary for me but i'll go with it because i'd rather not have anymore regrets and i totally adore her.

please feel free to keep your opinions coming they have all been excellent

thank you :)
 
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tth

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hey, she reminds me of me lol. I too would be scared to meet someone for the first time even if we talked for over a year. I don't know why but thats just me. Talking online and meeting in person is totally different for me. And if I like someone, I sometime would ignore them. It depends on my mood. So its totally normal.
 
Scrabbl

Scrabbl

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Oh my god I really hope things work out for you guys... shy people relationships have the potential to be so special and delicate and beautiful.

Things didn't go very well for me but you have my best wishes
 
shybhoy

shybhoy

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yes....she told me she was "terribly shy" and that shes extremely nervous because she likes me so much and because she feels that nobody gets her and she thinks i do get her then that makes it even worse and although she does want to meet me because she really really likes me she knows she will be beyond nervous because its me....so i'll just need to take things really slow....she also says guys in the past have given up because she can appear to be hard work to those less shy who do not understand. But i do understand and i will wait and have patients shes so lovely.
 
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Illusions

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You have no reason to be worried because it's completely normal for shy girls. For as long as I can remember (i.e ever since I started crushing as a pre-teen), I've avoided the objects of my infatuation like the plague, out of fear. I suggest you give her time to adjust, and good luck to the both of you. :)
 
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