Argamemnon

By the time those people have grandchildren, we will probably overcome our shyness, and start looking for our first ever "girlfriend", who will be 60

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bagota50

I've never understood what partying is about anyway.
I've never liked party's and as far as I can recall back they have bored me.

Justas

I almost always sit in the corner. But the last party I was in... I don't remember :| Anyway when I'm drunk I can do lots of stuff... In the morning i feel ashamed. After avoiding a lot of stuff nobody invites me anymore to partys or something familier. Now I'm thinking it's better sitting in corner than avoiding.
Argamemnon lets hope it will happen sooner I'm starting to think I won't reach 60 with so much problems in my head.

Sorry for my bad english

elliegrindhouse

'No offence to the OP, but claiming that "shyness is social suicide" is absurd. As if being shy or anxious is something we can control when we want. That's totally BULL****.'

ksorry, SA IS SOCIAL SUICIDE.
how many people with sa with an actual social life do you know?
probably not many, because we're all too god damn afraid to live a life with people.
KTHANKS.

Ashiene

I think what Argamemnon meant was the use of the term 'suicide' to describe social anxiety. He stated that 'suicide' was something that we had a choice in, to do it or not to do it, but social anxiety is not something we have chosen for ourselves, it just manifested in us due to a traumatic event or a trigger. Maybe replacing 'suicide' with 'disease' would sound better.

I was waiting for so long, for a miracle to come, everyone told me to be strong, hold on and don't shed a tear. Let the rain come down and wash away my tears; let it fill my soul and drown my fears. Let it shatter the walls for a new, new sun. A new day has come...

Argamemnon

It's NOT suicide because suicide is a decision; anxiety or depression is not. It just happens and for some people there is little to nothing they can do about it.....

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Argamemnon

Exactly, thanks!

If you want bigotry and fundamentalism and naked ape chest beating, you can't do better than starting with ayatollah Richard Dawkins.

Kinetik

All my life I've made excuses to dodge every social situation possible. For a long time it messed with my confidence, because I got to thinking "I'm not having any experiences, not making friends, not having adventures/encounters" - but then I remember it's all my own fault, which makes the whole thing worse. Regardless, for years I thought I was heinous or that there was something majorly wrong with me outside of my shyness, but that's not the case. It's all down to this phobia I have. You can't expect the world to knock at your door, you have to go out and make things happen, and that took me a ridiculously long time to realize.

In any case, I've just never had the guts to go out and party, to talk to people, or to meet girls in normal ways (very often it starts out online). I wish that would change, but I'm midway through my twenties now so I don't see it happening anytime soon.